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I'm not coping very well and I'm finding the smallest of things are settin me off.
I'm so worried about the contested hearing.
I've cried all the way to work this morning.
The kids returned from contact yesterday. First thing 10 yr old said to me "social worker is comin to see me this week to see where I want to live"
My heart broke. They've clearly been talking over the weekend and no doubt he's been given a speech to give the social worker. I knew she was comin but I haven't mentioned it to 10 yr old because he worries. As far as I'm aware the section 7 is done and the SW just wants to speak to them about their feelings on contact.
Later a phone call came, 10 yr old asked him what day the social worker was coming, quietly i said "dad shouldn't be telling you thing like that" his response (whilst on the phone to 10 yr old) "tell her to f@ck off" 10 yr old repeated it and again my heart sank.
What a low life. Who does that?
I feel like just throwing in the towel today. It's pointless even reporting things like this to the SW, it's his word against mine, I feel truly helpless.
Any advise would be grateful.
Hey Crocs,
I know it's hard, and at the moment you're feeling very much like "what's the point"... But you are doing the right thing.
If the S7 has been completed, then it's very likely that the recommendations will have been all but completed too, and it's now just a case of waiting for the hearing.
Regarding your Ex getting a 10 year old to speak to his mother like that - my personal opinion is that it's totally out of order and only serves to highlight the maturity of your ex...
Kids will take the situation "as is" and unfortunately they don't always understand the implications of that - if they did, they wouldn't need parents 🙂
It's not easy, and when your children speak harsh words it is upsetting - but see it for what it is. Your ex is relaying BS at you via the kids, it is emotional warfare.
The end is in sight, and he sounds as though he's doing everything he can to wear you down and drive you over the edge.
Stay strong, stay positive - you're doing great! 🙂
Chin up.
BD
Keep in there Crocs, and try to stay strong.
It may seem like a never ending pit of [censored], but it will get better at some point.
Also please remember to look after yourself and be kind to yourself. This is particularly important at times of such high stress.
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