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i have been split from my past partner for about 9 years now, I pay £250 a month as a mutual agreed amount for my two boys who are aged 10 + 12 ... I see my boys at weekends and on holidays and generally all the time when i'm not at work, I love them to bits but recently there mother has been threatening me with all sorts of things because my eldest is playing up at her home, he wants to live with me but I work full time, I have a council house but I have always worked full time, where can I get advice as I am willing to look for a part time job if I have my son living with me ..... my ex has been calling screaming down the phone and makes my son tell all sorts of lies and he hates living there but she uses emotional blackmail a lot on him saying things like he wont see his other siblings if he goes to mine along with his brother who is mine but his other 3 sisters who she has with 2 other dads .... I was the first partner and we have my boys and we split then she has had other partners that's where the other kids come from... Im a reasonable person I just do not know where to turn , im single , I work full time (6 days a week) and its all very hard and being made so much harder with her antics and the pressure its putting me under is immense.... she has threatened all sorts of things and she's like jeckle n hide, my eldest son is struggling with bad behaviour at school and I just want to get him right but whilst hes with her its very hard ...
Hi there
Has she agreed for him to come and live with you?
Have you contacted his school and asked about after school clubs that he could attend? I know that most primary schools have breakfast and after school clubs to assist those parents that have work commitments, so it's worth looking into.
Perhaps you could use mediation to try and get things sorted out. If your ex isn't happy then perhaps some reassurance is necessary, she might be worried that she will lose him. if you can get some agreement from her there's no reason why he couldnt continue to go to hers until you finish work, that way he would get to spend time with his siblings and his mum. Perhaps you could suggest a trial period and rather than putting it that he is leaving her to live with you, it could be more that you are working together to get him back on track.
Here's a link to the mediation service
www.nfm.org.uk
Best of luck
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