[Solved] Advice urgently needed

I'm not going to lie to make myself look good, I'm just going to tell you what happened.

A little over 2 and a half years ago, my ex moved back down to the Midlands to be closer to her family, taking my daughter with her. ever since I've had extremely limited contact with my Daughter. This is usually dependant on whether or not her mother and I are getting along, which admittedly is less and less these days.I live on Merseyside with no transport, a cubic assload of debt. and no prospects of getting any transport until early next year at the very earliest.

On the 28th of July, she brought my daughter up for a visit and spent the week at my mothers house. She stays there virtually every time she comes up to visit. before they arrived we had arranged that I would have my daughter for a couple of hours on the Wednesday. to be perfectly frank if it weren't for the fact that she had made lunch plans with friends more than likely I wouldn't have seen her at all over the 7 days she was here.

On the Wednesday, i took my little girl into Liverpool and generally we had a good time. On our way home, unfortunately we were a little too far from a toilet and she had an accident. Obviously she was quite upset at this but it was nothing a quick change of clothes and a cuddle couldn't square away pretty quickly. I got back to my mums, explained everything that had happened throughout the day and my ex seemed perfectly fine about the whole thing.... well that was what she said to my face anyway. she told me that she had a few plans to finalise but she would get back to me over when i could see my daughter next before they went home.

So I waited, and waited, and waited a little more, and didn't hear a peep. in the mean time I'd called round at my mums on 3 separate occasions on the off chance I might see her. They where out every time. i finally get a text on Sunday saying i could go and see her before they left on Monday. Naturally I agreed.

Unfortunately, I was unable to make it to my mums before they left. I work permanent night shifts and the night previous I finished a little earlier than I anticipated. So i made the mistake of going home first. I sat down and promptly fell asleep, not waking up until after they had left. Understandably, my ex was seriously annoyed. Which I can completely understand. I said I'd be there and I wasn't. No defence whatsoever. Thats when things started going more than a little pear shaped.

I got a text message that afternoon just after they had left. Now I realise that I'm not perfect here. The whole rant wasn't so much that I wasn't there to say goodbye, but mainly about the Wednesday (which up to this point she hadnt mentioned at all) and now all of a sudden I'm Lucifer incarnate. I'm not allowed to have my daughter unsupervised, and a favourite trick she likes to throw at me is telling me how ashamed embarrassed etc my mum is. (not true)

Now here's where I'm totally confused. She basically booked herself and my daughter up for the full week, made plans with friends etc. My own mum didn't get to see much of the baby and she was staying in her house. However, Im the one whos made no effort to see my daughter, I'm the one who's the pond life for not seeing her. although how i was supposed to see her when she wasnt there to begin with I'll never know.

A week later, another text message, my ex has now imposed more sanctions than a UN arms embargo on when I can see my daughter. For every visit they make, whether its a weekend or a month, I'm "allowed one supervised meeting" with my daughter. If I rock at my mums house unannounced, she will stay somewhere else when she comes to visit, and I wont be allowed to see my daughter at all. basically, blackmailing me in that if I "Don't follow the rules" it wont just be me that loses out on time with my daughter, it'll be my mum too. Which is incredibly unfair as my mum bends over backwards to accommodate her. Even to the point when she pulled the exact same stunt the year before last at Christmas time. (I had to leave my daughters Christmas presents and leave before they came back). I realise this incredibly long winded and thank you for taking the time to read my my blog. Any comments you may offer, positive, negative or indifferent, will be greatly appreciated. Even if nobody reads this, I think it may be of help to just get this off my chest, as there are very few people I can discuss this with.

I will post any relevant updates as and when, until next time.

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