[Solved] Vasectomy

Hi, I went through the process, like you, at my wife's insistence following a difficult pregnancy/ childbirth. It is quite uncomfortable (briefly painful). I was in my late 30's and happily married. Now in my late 40s, she has left for someone else and whilst I have no desire to have any more kids (I'm bringing up our 2 boys alone), I do feel additionally aggrieved about it. It's a difficult issue to advise on as I have the benefit of hindsight. Until our marriage ended it was well worth the short term discomfort for the added spontaneity, but has been an added grievance now she's gone. Hope this helps in some way.
CW

I think CW 's answer to your initial message is both superb and thought provoking. It has given you a number of things to consider when he talks about his experiences after having had the operation, Some of these may or may not happen to you in your life.

My opinion for what it is worth is don't do it unless you are 100% sold on the idea and the relationship is very sound. Your body belongs to you!

There are many contraceptive methods out there. Probably you should look in detail as to what is available for a FEMALE as well as a male.

I'm just expressing a personal opinion as I tend to look at all scenarios. There is an old saying "act in haste, repent at leisure."

Take your time and think about it thoroughly before deciding.

Hey buddy... I've had this done. Monday morning snip at the local hospital. The booking and advice in advance was great and the procedure was OK, was sore for a few days and was relieved once I'd cracked one out (still worked - phew). 6 months later normal service resumed, if anything we do it more as we can't get pregnant! Go for it...

Thanks for the advice so far guys. We've been together 6 years, that doesn't seem long but in that time i've adopted the two kids she had from a previous relationship, we've had one of our own and have gotten married, so pretty sure we're in it for the long run 🙂

I agree the spontaneity and doing things in the heat of the moment does make things much more appealing haha but with a three year old about that isn't always a possibility.

Regarding other forms of contraception, the wife can't take the pill due to a medical reason, and she caught on the other two even though the [censored] was protected so her record isn't great 😀

I do think it's something we need to discuss more and there's obviously a fair few things that need concrete answers.

I've had it done - twice!! With a reversal in between.

First time was with my ex and we hadn't planned to have any children. What we didn't know was that she was pregnant at the time I had the op, so after our son came along, we decided that another would be nice and had the reversal (I'd had sperm frozen at the time of the vasectomy just in case - but that wasn't the way we decided we wanted to bring another child into the world) which was a success and second and third child were born. After the divorce, and meeting my (now) wife, we decided we had done our bit for world population, and I volunteered for the vasectomy as being the most reliable method.

I've had it done under both local and general anaesthetic - couldn't feel anything under local, but the running commentary nearly made me pass out since I knew what was going on. If you have a choice and you're squeamish, then go for the general, but ultimately it's a short amount of discomfort and the benefits are worth it.

Don't forget (you will be advised this anyway) that potentially you are still fertile for a couple of months after the operation - you will need to take a sample in again to get it checked before you are given the all clear.

I had mine November last year at my GP surgery. I had to wait about 12 weeks as they wait until they can round enough blokes up to make it worth while getting a doctor in to do it.

I didnt find it painful and watched and chatted through it. A bit strange seeing bits of your tackle poking out whilst they cut it but I guess I had a bit of an interest, my sister is a nurse and I wish I had become a doctor rather than joining up when I left school.

There was a bit of discomfort for a few days but nothing major.

I have to say though I did feel a little sad / out of sorts for a day or two afterwards, I think that the realisation of not being able to have more children made me wonder if I had done the right thing but that passed and I am sure that I made the right decision.

Regards,

Dave

I had mine about three years after my son and second child was born, procedure went fine apart from when they tackled the left hand one, the anaestetic hadnt kicked in.... so felt the skin being cut open and grimaced, he asked if i felt it i said yes, oh well another needle for you then.

Went back to ward and waited for release and tried to cheer up another soon to be operated guy, saying dont wory its not painful etc, when after 45 mins to an hour i started fidgeting and thinking jeezo this is getting sore, numb and tingly!!!

funny when my son came running to see me and headbutting me in the region four hours after operation...

not funny when wife at the time drove me home and managed to hit every pot hole on way home.... shes now ex...

Good luck with that Baz. But be sure with your decision before doing it, you won't get it back.