[Solved] I just can't come to terms with my loss

Hi Jasey,

Ever thought of volounteering mate?

I dont know your area but just thought that maybe you could find a local group that you could volounteer for.

This may be a step to far and open old wounds but what about a childrens group, disadvantaged kids or Duk of Edinbrugh award, Scouts etc.

This type of thing would get you out and help to give you some cheer, new skills maybe, meet new people etc.

Be strong Jasey and keep the goal of seeing your son in sight. Nothing lasts for ever....our day will come.

Regards,

Dave

This sounds like a great idea,

GTTS

Jasey

I have experience in gaining access as I struggle to see my own son, is there any reason your not seeing your son? 7 years is a long time. Have you tired court etc?

jim123

I tried court for a number of years but i didn't get anywhere. The solicitor of my ex knew how to play the system.... she pulled a fast one by encouraging my ex to brainwash my lad against me.... and also coaching him to make false allegations against me when i did have contact with him. And to top it all off indirect contact was purposely requested by the solicitor of my ex with a cafcass report to be used for utter lies. I am faced now with an uphill task in getting to see my lad ever again. every time i send indirect contact they say the child doesn't want to know. it just shows that the indirect contact was purposely put in place as a smoke screen and to play games with.

I feel for you,

Surely after 7 years they could have a rethink, or get cafcass involved again?

Could you not apply back to court for some kind of access, and state that if cafcass need to be involved then they could at least do a re report?

Even if it starts off with supervised access, its a start?

Don't give up mate

I am back in court in Jan 2014 after Ive complied this year with 3 lots of indirect contact Easter/ Birthday / Christmas. But no doubt it will be the same old [censored]... "The child doesn't want to know" And besides Ive heard my Ex is looking to move address to avoid me taking her to court again. How wonderful not 🙁

Keep an open, positive mind for Jan 2014.

Make points in court that a child should have 2 parents in their life. Its not in the child's best interest to have a father that wants to see them, but the mother is stopping it.

Highlight the points that you've had a year of indirect contact and that you don't believe the child's wishes of 'he doesn't want to see his dad' are his own opinions.

You could suggest a few meetings of supervised access, a step up from indirect which you have been abiding by for a year. And then see how he reacts afterwards, and maybe get a re report from cafcass.

Hi jasey

All I can say is keep fighting. I'm just starting this process a d haven't seen my daughter for 5 days. I can not imagine how 7 years must feel.

I try to use Buddhist meditation a day teachings. Whatever is happening you must try to detach a little, I know it's easier said than done. The situation will not change or. I've forward more quickly by an increase in your stress. Just keep doing the right thing for you, your health and your child.

Do not give in, he who endures conquers in the end. Show your decency, be patient and remain steadfast. I like you am struggling with all the same emotions, but just keep trying that's all you can do.

PM me if ever you need a rant and take care.

SO

Thanks strugglingon,

If you ever need a chat feel free... I'll do my best to help in any way i can.