[Solved] YET MORE FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE!!!

I'm glad I have been of some assistance. Just keep your head down, and be polite towards the ex,even if you don't feel like it. It will be her that looks bad in the end.

Yeah I was nice as pie all I want at the end of the day is for her to get help with her drinking and it looks like that may be happening now so we shall see 🙂

Hi Slim, glad things went well. What has happened since court? 🙂

Slim, I was fed up of having conversations with the ex and then her denying what was said so for my own safety and protection I bought a recorder from ebay.

It's about an inch long and 1 cm wide so just keep it in my pocket now just in case we speak again. It plugs in USB in the computer to play back easily and was less than £10

Thanks Boo Boo, not a lot has happened since court, my ex has no longer got my phone number so all the abuse has stopped which `i'm pleased about as i couldn't carry on living like that, I have done everything requested by court, got my letter from GP stating I went to him to seek help in giving up the cannabis, I sent in the quote for drug test and I attended the spips course.

On top of that I actually done a cannabis hair strand test which came back negative, I've enrolled on a parenting course as it was suggested my parenting skills were not up to scratch, I've recieved a damning letter from ex's Heath Visitor accusing me of domestic violence and abuse which she bases on one over heard phone call when my ex put me on loud speaker, still not seen my daughter and her sister for 6 months, on to the 3rd cafcass officer and they havent even started the s7 yet.

The s7 isto be completed by the 22nd july should get the next hearing date start of july.

No need for recording device cartmell as there is no contact between me and my ex at all

I'm in a pickle, right my ex had two counts of domestic violence againsts me, and a criminal damage the charges got acquitted in court, I'm currently going through courts to gain parental responsibility, social services are involved and my baby is on child protection plan, I've got a non molestation order against me, she's lied to everyone about me and now she's with her new fella with my daughter, I've not seen my daughter now for four months, it's ripping my heart out constantly, now as I believe when I go to court for a child arrangement order she can and will bring up all this plop again, where do I stand???

I can't see that she won't bring all of this up, so you need to be prepared for it. I would look at trying for a contact centre in the first place, and build on that. The courts will almost certainly want cafcass to do a report, so you may as well work with that rather than trying to fight it.

Yeah she will certainly throw all that back at you and the kitchen sink so as actd has said be prepared, it doesnt necessary mean you will never see your child it will just take time so don't do anything to make the situation worse, cooperate with cafcass be prepared to when you do get to see your child for it to been in a contact centre, play it cool in court, dont get angry, I know too well what it's like not seeing your child I dint see mine for 10 awful months, do your research lean on family and friends, take care of yourself and take on board peoples advice on here, it will be a long slog but worth it in the end.

all the best

Slim 🙂

Great advice from Slim.

hi i am a mother of two and my ex did this to me they wont fall for it as long as you have allabies good luck :}