[Solved] YET MORE FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE!!!

She's probably Bi-polar or has a borderline personality disorder

These type of women need help!

I know from personnel experience 🙁

I've thought she is Bi-Polar for 2 years now and she drinks to self medicate I've done a bit of research and it's a carbon copy of how she acted towards me this is the reason why I finished the relation ship.

she'd get obsessed by certain things then lose interest, [censored] with money, massive mood swings, hated me one minute then loved me the next, she drank a couple of bottles of wine a day and made out it was me with the problem. Even this is pure [censored] not seeing my daughter its better than having to live with her and putting up with her mood swings just to see my girl.

It may be she's not bi-polar - may just be an alcoholic, after all a couple of bottles of wine a day sounds like a dependency, and that's only the alcohol you know about.

Yeah It used to be a couple of bottles of wine a day but now she's moved onto a bottle of vodka a day which i noticed when I was round over xmas.

She finally made all her false allegations to the police yesterday and they asked me down for a chat last night and all they said was that they told her to stop contacting me and leave it all for the courts, she offered no proof ect they obviously didn't take any of it seriously, It's the first day since she found my phone number again that I havent had mountains of abuse all day it's been bliss, just gotta hold out for another 18 days before the directions hearing

Sounded like a lot of what I was going through years ago with my ex, who was also an alcoholic. Common theme is to push all the buttons to start an argument so they can then blame you.

If you are interested, could be worth a few visits to Al Anon - that the organisation for people affected by friends/relatives who are alcoholics.

Yeah man I'm just glad I'm not in a relationship with her anymore I'm the only one who knows about her drinking she's mugged everyone and made out its me whos the controlling abusive ex boyfriend had 2 years of it constantly its got 10 times worse since she fell pregnant, I'll check that site out cheers mate

You'd be surprised - I used to think I was the only one who knew about my ex drinking, turned out my family knew, and her family didn't want to admit it. Even the children knew, and I thought we'd kept it from them.

Had a terrible week of grief from her ended up having to go down and have an interview with the Police she's trying to get me charged with harassment now, one of her friends stopped me in the street and pleaded with me to carry on with the courts ect then made out it was me who approached her so the Police nearly arrested me for 3rd party harassment, I got an almighty bollocking from the Police and they said one more complaint from my ex and im in the cells so ive had to change my number for the 6th time this year I've left the area for a week or so and i'm laying low until the directions hearing, can't believe its all come to this, most of my family are saying to just forget about my daughter and carry on with my life but I'm never giving up I have never done anything wrong and never will do.

Wow, that's bad. Knowing how she and her friends are behaving, I would have some sort of recorder to hand at all times if I were you - if you can show the police that she is making false allegations, they will hopefully back off a bit.

Yeah it's all getting a little crazy, I've had enough to be honest it's bad enough not having seen my daughter for 4 months then with my ex trying to rub salt in the wound makes it worse, this latest round of [censored] started when i left my phone numbers on the court papers by mistake, I can't be doing with carrying a recorder about with me i'm just staying out the way, I've changed my number and gonna bury my head in work for a bit, she is just provoking me to do something stupid as she hasn't got a thing on me ive not replied to text phonecalls, ive tried mediation a contact centre, i pay maintenance so she knows i'll get some sort of contact she's even been telling me to kill myself to get me to crack but it's not happening it is getting hard though

I've had all that with my ex husband. Things got really bad earlier this year,however I kept a diary of everywhere I went, who I saw, receipts etc. I was able to prove my innocense. It is hard, and being accused of harrassment is damaging to you as the one being accused. You will get through it, and you will be stronger for it. Document everything, you can then use it in court if needed. Keep strong 🙂

Many thanks Boo Boo,

I attended court last monday for the directions and all her allegations got threw out from the word go as my ex didn't report anything to the police and I admitted they was an incident but I never done what she said.

I admitted leaving a mark on the child in question as I picked her up by underneath her arms to pull her away from receiving another beating so that back fired on my ex then she accused me of beating two child relatives when in fact i admitted tapping one of them on the side of the knee to get his attention as he was choking his mum and wouldn't stop yet again the court accepted this, my ex kept contradicting herself at every turn it was priceless.

I took a folder of evidence in with me and proved her wrong on everything she came out with in court, i didn't get access as there has been drug allegations so I've got to do a hair strand test which isn't a problem a letter from my doctor and attend a course so no to bad really it's given me loads of confidence and I cant wait for round 2 🙂