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Thanks for your endorsement about the benefits of taking care of yourself...regular meals and plenty of exercise takes care of a good nights sleep! It's great to get confirmation that it helps though! You're doing really well, I'm proud of you so keep it up!
The news about the courts is encouraging and the fact that the court office staff are so helpful. When you write the letter, you should send a copy to the other side and keep a copy for your records.
It's probs the best advice you could possibly give I would also advise anyone going through the same situation to give up any vices they may have as well and it's less for the other party to have over you too 🙂
Here's a quote from my ex that made me laugh........"the Judge will take one look at your nose which has been broken loads of times and not allow you any contact with your Daughter" hahaha! 🙂
You could have countered with ".... yes, but I'll tell him you broke it" 😀
Hahaha! I feel loads better about the whole situation after yesterdays latest round of abuse, some of her arguments at why I'm such a bad father are comical, I managed to get some pics and videos of my Daughter and I've managed to find out about her lung condition which puts my mind at rest a little, I'm just hoping I can get some interim contact at he directions hearing.
as long as you have not touched her trust me the judge would see through it all, they see it everyday, my ex has also alleged DV, from the best husband in the world and greatest father who ever lived to now turning her into a punching bag, sadly for her, she has no medical report to support her, no police report apart from verbal misunderstanding and no witness to back up her claim, i am wondering what her next lie would be now lol
No I've never laid a finger on her she even admits this, I've never actually even raised my voice at her or her other daughter, I never have and never will which really upsets her, she's under some illusion that this first directions hearing is going to be a massive court room battle and we're going to be slagging each other off launching verbal assaults at each other ect, All the abuse and her claiming that because I've been in a few fights in my time ( i done Karate for 6 years) that this makes me a bad dad make me think she's clutching at straws and I'm hoping the judge will see through this.
It just freaks me out when I see some of the nightmare scenarios on here my Daughters nearly 6 months old and I haven't seen her for 3 months now I've missed out on so much already I'm dreading no contact for another few months after this hearing, sorry to hear you're in the same boat, what gets into these women my ex was the most loving caring girl going we were best mates for 6 years helped each other out Dj'ed together ect then as soon as she fell pregnant I was scum of the earth and have been ever since its crazy
I'm afraid pregnancy can change some women for the worse!
When my Ex became pregnant she turned for the worse, hormones make them mental....
Yeah man she was exactly the same with her first daughter and her father ran for the hills, my ex even admits she treated him like scum but she won't admit that she's doing the same to me, it's all insane I wonder if they will be a day when she realises what she has done.
((HUGS)) xx
Yeah I've dug out all the Fathers day cards she got me on behalf of her first daughter who's father ran for the hills, she's wrote in every one including birthday cards at how wonderful I am how she can't live without me and how much support I've given them both, Ive kept all receipts of everything I have bought for her and my daughter since she told me she was pregnant, I've got reciepts for all the maintenance I've paid for the past 6 months for my daughter and put them in a folder for evidence at court, I've also put in photos from the past 6 years of us djing abroad ect and theres hundreds with me and her first daughter just to prove to the courts I've always been there for her and am going no where.
I realise it is over between us but I'd love it if we could build out friendship back up some how for the sake of both girls I'm sure she's suffering from some sort of mental illness as she has isolated herself from everyone all her friends family ect its not health for he girls, ive been looking everywhere for something to help me to try and reason with her and build things back up again
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