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Hi everyone, just seeking a bit of advice.
Left court in November 22 and already back seeking enforcement order.
The ex might also be in contempt of court about a non molestation order she went for using allegations that have already been dismissed in a fact finding hearing.
But my question is around Xmas day.
The order is for alternative Xmas days and boxing days, this year its my turn to have the kids Xmas day.
But the issue is this...am I meant to have them Xmas eve so they wake up with me Xmas morning?
The ex is saying no and that I have to pick them up Xmas day at 10am.
I live roughly hour and a bit away, there is no public transport that day, I don't drive and can't afford cab there and back at triple rates.
Where do I stand here?
Thank you in advance for any advice.
hi,
is it possible you can state the exact wording from the order, with regards to xmas arrangements?
@bill337
Thank you Bill.
The order just says
On boxing day in every even year starting 2022
On Christmas day in every odd year starting in 2023.
She is saying I have to pick them up on Xmas day from their school gates. There is no public transport, its an hour away and no way would I be able to afford triple rate cab fares or dare ask someone else for a lift on their special day.
sounds odd. if order doesn't state where handovers take place, then problematic. if arrangements not working, you can try mediation. if that fails you can return to court and seek variation of order.
sounds odd. if order doesn't state where handovers take place, then problematic. if arrangements not working, you can try mediation. if that fails you can return to court and seek variation of order.
@bill337
Tis all a mess Bill.
She stopped contact just before summer hols out of nothing other than sheer spite.
So i went for enforcement order, she then tried a non molestation order using old accusations which she might be in contemp of court.
She has since put in a variation order wanting me and kids back in a contact center...judge has asked for old reports and new statements from schools etc etc which might be vital as one of the head teachers told me that " she has planned this in advance and using the kids as weapons against you"..
Back in January.
But Bill thank you so much, not just for replying to me but what you do for the forum in general, you are top,top fella.
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