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Hi
I’ve gone to court once, accepted anything in fear on not havinv my kids overnight why the family courts drag their feet, and on this basis I could go back to court to request more time at a later date.
I text my ex to suggest mediation she responded any type of texts other than if the children are poorly etc needs to go through the solicitor. Now this can mean my solicitor or her solicitor, but I’m no longer using a solicitor so going to act myself what ever the saying is.
I am therefore going to write to her solicitor who acted for her at the time of our first round in court.
I’ve basically explained that I’ve text her she sadly feels that I need to correspond through you (the solicitor) in order to find out whether she will consider mediation before it goes to court and have basically asked them to find this out.
The cost of them replying wouldn’t go to me would it? Since I’m contacting her solicitor, as she is their client so would it cost me to write to her solicitor expecting a reply, does the cost go to the ex and not me?
It’s just all part of her pathetic games why she can’t just respond to the text saying yes or no I don’t know but I expect she thinks I’ll use my solicitor to write to her costing me money but if I write directly to hers there should t be any costs involved, am I right in thinking this?
Thanks guys
You don't need to contact anyone except the mediation service. They will contact her once youve applied.
Really? I thought we both have to agree to mediation before going, I didn’t realise I can go directly to a mediator and they can make contact directly with her asking?
Yes, that's how it works. National Family Mediation are your best bet.
Hi There,
You wouldn't pay her solicitor for anything, they are acting for her and she will foot the bill, you could write to them daily and they would not charge you a penny (I am not suggesting you do this)
You may not get any replies from them, as they will discuss with her and act on what she tells them, so if she refuses to answer you wouldn't be any further forward.
As said above if you contact a mediator and ask them to contact her then they will I would try and find one near where she lives to stop any excuses as to why she wouldn't attend.
If you can't get anywhere through mediation or she won't attend then you can apply to court
GTTS
Not only will it not cost you anything, it will actually cost her, as her solicitor will be doing additional work for her.
Hi
Other than your requests to increase time, has she stuck to the final order from the previous hearings? If she hasn't, you could apply directly to the court (if you don't get anywhere with her via her solicitor) for enforcement of the order and you don't need to attempt mediation in that case. Most judges will also accept a verbal application for variation at an enforcement hearing.
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