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So after i had my non molestation order hearing, i was then threatened by her barrister as i left court that if i contested the order it would interfere with contact with my son
later that day i emailed her solicitor with a proposal for contact which they denied and then said this to me:
'We accordingly note that you have, in any event, commenced Child Arrangements proceedings in the Family Court, and, as instructed, will allow a presiding Judicial Officer to decide as to the care arrangements for child.'
so i replied asking if i could have any contact at all and was told:
'As you have advised that you have already commenced Child Arrangements proceedings, the presiding Judicial Officer of that case will make Orders, if any, in relation to contact with your son.'
i have included this in my statement for my contact order
so my question is.....if they say they have been instructed to allow the court to make the decision....does that mean she cant start saying she has any concerns or start mud flinging seen as she is prepared for the court to make any orders?
just asking as i wonder whether to mention this to cafcass in my interview plus the fact i have recorded phonecalls with her saying she will never stop me seeing my son but then have texts saying i will have to drag it through the courts and get a solicitor
cheers guys and girls
It's just a general response and there's nothing to read into it really, it won't prevent her from making any allegations as the case gets underway. I wouldn't mention this, it just comes across as trying to trip her up, concentrate on your case and your child.
As far as the recordings are concerned, if they are relevant to your case you can ask permission for them to be used, this can be done by putting them on a disc or by transcribing them.
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