[Solved] Worried about status quo of not seeing my daughter

Listen your girls will be so pleased to see you at that observational visit and the time lapse will melt away. Definitely push for contact at the next hearing.

It's often the case that things don't seem to be going all that well initially but it can all change and once reports are in and tests come back negative, the courts are then a lot happier to get things moving...after all they do believe that a child's best interests are best served when both parents are involved in their upbringing. They have to be cautious when allegations come out, but once disproven they can dispense with the caution.

I can't wait to see them my ex piped in and said oh my daughters sister will be over joyed to see him because of her disability she's like that with everyone it makes me sick she has used her disability against me seeing her all the way through and I can't believe her dad has been made party to proceedings when he disowned her because having a disabled daughter didn't fit in with is lifestyle image they both were hoping that she died at birth it's discusting I'm the only one who has truly loved that little girl it felt good after they spent 20 mins saying how little involvement I had with her for 6 years then I unleashed my folder of evidence with 5 fathers days cards written by my ex and pics of me and little one, I never looked at it from that angle NJ yeah your right their just been cautious, it just felt like because mum won't allow any contact with either girls and she won't budge there's not alot the courts can do, I hope this spips course has an effect on her, the court did ask the dad why he has no contact with his daughter and he just said me and my ex had serious issues so I thought it was better to walk away in the end they both were forced to contradict themselfs and admit I have been part of little ones life it was defo a tale of two halfs yesterday I am exhausted at work hardly got any sleep and I can hardly walk as I've got 4 blisters on my feet as I bought some new shoes for court and they've killed me!

My son's daughter is 21/2 and he hasn't seen her for 2 years, so she doesn't remember him. He has had his second contact session and on the first one, she cried and kept going back to her mum who was sat outside the door with her boyfriend watching my son. The second session, although they arrived 1/2 hour late, the little one came in quite happily and played comfortably with my son. Even said as she was going out of the door "back soon". Melts your heart.

Don't worry that you haven't seen them for a little while.

My concern with you not seeing your children would be that our former is setting a patern of contact and which makes it difficult for you as undoubtedly contact initialy will not as much until everyone is refamilairised.

Push for interim contact even if it is supervised.

Regards,

Dave

Yeah they argued that because my baby hasn't seen me she would freak out when she did but I came back with she's a baby she will adapt and she never freaked out when I first saw her 6 weeks after she was born, I also asked the cafcass officer if she was a child psychologist which she replied no then I suggested that she was assuming things and how would she know my daughters reaction and she just went quiet for a while then said a contact centre is supported not supervised so my ex would be in attendance and she's refused so they recommended no contact with my baby and the courts agreed the main sticking block why they refused is they are waiting for my drugs test to come back and my baby's sister is disabled so that complicates things as she's not mine, I've been granted permission for both girls after a pure dog fight in court so I've walked away happy and I didn't realise cafcass are going to observe me with both girls so atleast I can prove myself to them I can't wait for the next hearing when that drugs test come back negative I'm going in all guns blazing this time for contact trust me 🙂