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(@lollyrus)
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Well 5 weeks to go to 3rd Final court Hearing. Mother from [censored] is up to her old tricks again. She is determined child will not be coming to our home in Scotland. So much so that she's pulled another stunt by claiming child is too stressed to go on 3 day/night school trip and has kept him off school again (4th time she's done this). We found out because school rang my partner to say they were rather concerned and surprised that child has not gone on the school trip and when Mother arrived at school on the morning of the trip (she's a teacher at child's school), she declared child was at her mother's (child is 10) and no other explanation. School made her aware it would be classed as an unauthorised absence so the following day she claimed he'd become ill. My partner meanwhile has asked as he's in their area for a few days, can he take child for tea today or tomorrow and the reply back was they have things on so he can't have him (thought child was ill doh!! - she doesn't know my Partner's been contacted by the school),

My Partner will be speaking to Cafcass tomorrow who so far have ignored child's preference to not see Dad at all then for only 3 hours a month and absolutely for no overnights as he doesn't like being away from home (allegedly) and have recommended progressive contact which has now gone to an overnight stay for the last 3 months. We're obviously hoping that in 5 weeks (as contact with child has gone very well with no issues except mother trying to threaten to suspend contact unless she's informed of everything) that Cafcass will recommend contact progressing to Scotland and the Judge will hopefully write a final order for what my Partner has asked for, eg a full weekend a month (due to my Partner's job) and half the school holidays with child's passport available for holidays abroad.

We can see exactly what Mother is up to. We know in 5 weeks she will tell Court that child cannot cope with more than one overnight (as he had to pull out of school trip due to being stressed about it!) and he would be too traumatized to go to Scotland. But she forgets, child has already told Dad that he's looking forward to going to Italy this year with Mother, he survived a school trip last July when Mother had blocked all contact, with school reporting that he coped better than the other kids and was supportive to those that struggled with it, plus he has very regular sleep overs with his school friends.

Mother has also tried to be clever by declaring to Cafcass child needs to see a counsellor for his behavioural problems and bed-wetting which he doesn't have when my partner has him. So we managed to track down the child's Doctor. My partner had a very long telephone call with him, filling him in on what Mother has been up to and was given the number of the Counsellor who is seeing the child. My Partner contacted the Counsellor direct, making her aware of the mothers reluctance for father & child to have contact and explained about all the mother's antics over the last 2 years. Counsellor was very supportive of my partner in view that he had made the effort to get in touch and reassured him she will not be writing a report for court as its not court ordered counselling. In fact counsellor wants to get to the bottom of why the child is telling her he wants to see Dad but just not in Scotland, she can see child is extremely confused.

Fingers crossed my Partner gets the schedule of contact he wants but I got a feeling Mother will be pulling many more stunts or bare-faced breaching to try to stop it.

The sad part is she can't see or just doesn't care about the damage she is doing to her own child. Even the head-teacher at school said the child would've thoroughly enjoyed the trip but it's another wonderful experience he's missed out on because Mother has to try to "win" at all costs.

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Topic starter Posted : 15/01/2016 6:32 am
(@dadmod4)
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Excellent work by your partner on speaking to the right people - hopefully the court will see exactly what his ex has been doing.

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Posted : 16/01/2016 10:41 pm
(@lollyrus)
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We live in hope. Thanks actd.

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Topic starter Posted : 17/01/2016 2:58 am
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