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Hi,
I would recommend you apply for c100 child arrangement order as priority. the longer you leave things like this, the worse it will get for you. it is quite straightforward and you don't need to pay huge sums of money to lawyers for this.
I do believe that the advice you get here is more valuable than a solicitor's consultation. I understand how you feel at the moment, and it can be confusing to you. Totally understand you may not even know what on earth you want from this. You should end this relationship, if you don't, and even if she comes back, this will bite you for many many years to come, and it has left a deep scar in you, psychologically, emotionally, and probably financially. I don't know how strongly you feel about the child, if you want to be a good father, you will need to focus on your relationship with the child. If it involves domestic abuse, mediation does not work any more, just submit a form to the court to establish your contact with the child. Best wishes! You are not alone, there are many fathers in this country like you.
I do believe that the advice you get here is more valuable than a solicitor's consultation.
🍻 I'll drink to that.
Thank you all for your advice. You all have been truly wonderful and are gentlemen above gentlemen!
I had a call from social services - children services end of last month. The woman spent an hour with me telling me more bs my wife told her and she wanted to hear my replies to each. Some were borderline extreme bs!
Does anyone know anything about prepaid cards being given by councils ?
~ And what stage am I in ? What's next to come ? When does she come after me for divorce or child maintenance ?
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