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Hi
Im a Mother with 5 sons, and I got married and divorced twice and I fought hard to keep the children in contact with their Dads as I know how I felt when my Mum made it difficult for my dad to see me and my brothers, I wanted to see my Dad and I made sure my lovely now grown up sons saw theres.
Why oh why do some women and after reading some posts know theres a lot, think they have this almighty right to control there exs and deprive there children, I do know in sometimes if the child is in danger it has to be sorted, but theressso many do it for just spite.
We as a family have now gone through 3 years of this control.
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I'm not sure that I can tell you anything her that you don't already know, having read your replied to some other posts 🙂
Your son is going to be looking at a contact order - have a read of yoji's guide to representing yourself at the top of this legal section as this will give a good idea of the process if you need it. Normally, the contact order is only concerning the non resident parent, but I would say that given the circumstances, including you in the arrangements is perfectly reasonable, and the courts do like to encourage contact with the extended family. His ex can not operate a 'three strikes' policy - if your son is travelling such distances and is reliant on public transport, then his ex is being unreasonably in expecting timing to the minute.
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Thanks for your reply, my knowledge is limited and I google everything.
The mum has now stated in a fb private message to my son(which we are keeping) that none of the family can be with him when he picks his daughter up, this includes me, she as also said you have to pick her up at 10am and bring her back at 5pm, which is impossible without our help
The reason I am writing this is my son is dyslexic and hes finding the whole thing as we all are upsetting and we so dont understand why shes doing this. I have a message from her a month ago saying when she moves I will be nearer and I can come and take my grandaughter out and she wants her to know all her family.
Im wondering if my son could get legal aid ?
Whether your son would be eligible for legal would be dependent on his earnings. I would contact the Legal Services Commision to see whether he qualifies.
Can I also second ACTD's suggestion? Have a look at Yoji's guide for self representation, because I think with your support this could be a productive option for your son.
i got a half hour free consultaion with a solicitor who made the calculation while I was there.
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