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My ex and i have been split up for around a year. I've moved out of the family home but go down to look after my Children ever Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. About 6 months ago she met a new fella and last night she announces that shes now pregnant with his child.
She wants to move him into MY HOUSE but i'm not happy about this and suggested that they go get their own new place together. She has also said that come December i will no longer have my children every Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday just every other weekend.
Any help or advice as to where i stand.
Do i have to sell her my share of the house (Joint tenants)?
What is the likely hood of my being able to get Joint custody of my children?
Does her being pregnant with someone elses child change anything with regards to her right over our house?
Am i able to 'charge' rent for her boyfriend living in the house?
thanks for any help or advice on this..
Hi there,
I'm not sure about your position with regard to the joint mortgage... I would think she probably has the right to buy you out and if thats not possible, then maybe the property would need to be sold and any equity shared....but thats only my opinion.
As far as joint custody is concerned, depending on when the children were born, and wether you are on the birth certificate...you would already have joint responsibility.
As you have had regular contact, on defined days, you would be in a good position to argue the right for this to continue. However that would be a court decision I think, and you would both be expected to try to sort this out through Mediation first, before applying to the court to reach agreement.
Did your ex move the goalposts concerning contact after you expressed you unhappiness to her about the pregnancy and new boyfriend moving in? That would indicate that she is using the children against you.
It is advisable that you start to keep a record of all conversations with your ex, with dates and times, also keep any texts or emails. This maybe helpful to you if there is a need to go before the courts. keep all your responses to her civil and dont send her any provocative texts or emails.
I'm new to this site myself and my knowledge is limited but I'm sure one of the guys will be along shortly to give you some more advice.
Good luck.
Hi and welcome
You would need to speak to a solicitor about the position regarding the house - having her boyfriend move in might actually be an advantage financially as there may be some expectation that he would have to provide a home for his child. You did ask whether you had to sell your share of the house to your ex - has she offered to buy? If so, I'd take the opportunity and sell - it's worth taking slightly less than your share if it comes to it as it could save you far more than that in legal fees.
As for joint custody, it's certainly a possibility - I'd speak to the Coram Childrens Legal Centre (normally, we'd ask for them to reply on here, but there are a few issues, so I think it's better to have a chat. There is a link to them at the bottom of this website.
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