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Im about to start the long process of court to see my daughter again, I haven't seen her for nearly a year now because my ex says she will arrange contact and then cancels nearer the time
We split up 4 years ago and I've always had regular contact with my daughter but she's never liked my partner, last year me and my partner got into a pretty bad fight in front of my daughter and since then my ex won't allow me to take me daughter to that house, she had stopped contact but before it got to this I agreed not to take her to my partners house again. I live with my Mum so that wasn't a big problem and I agreed
I then took my daughter to my partners house for a few hours and wrongly asked her to lie about going there but my ex found out and stopped all contact
My partner has been involved with social services previously too so if it gets as far as cafcass will my ex find out about that?
I know I was wrong and I want to see my daughter again but im terrified that I've messed up too badly this time, the ex won't agree out of court
Thanks, Jackson
Just be honest as it will come back to haunt you if you tell fibs. At this stage, your current partner's involvement with social services would not show on safeguarding checks as it's you and the child's mother that are party to the checks.
If you wish your child to have contact with your current partner and the mother feels there is a risk, the court could ask for safeguarding checks to be carried out. If you're not concerned about your current partner having contact with your child, you could offer to make an undertaking to the court that she won't come into contact with your child.
Until you get into the process and know what the mother's position will be on the issues, it's not really possible to predict what will happen next.
Prior to your hearing, you and the child's mother should both have a telephone interview with CAFCASS and they will produce a short safeguarding letter for the court giving their recommendations.
Good luck
Thank you for your reply. It's the ex im worried about, she will do everything she can to stop my daughter coming into contact with my partner
How will the courts view a fight where I was fighting back in front of my daughter?
Sorry for all the questions, I'm worried
I think it depends on what you mean by fight back. If your daughter saw a physical fight then that would be looked at in a poor light. If it was a verbal argument then it's not great but not as bad. Also if it was a one off that is different to if it happens regularly. Is your relationship with your partner usually smooth?
We had split up at the time but have since got back together. Yes it was a physical fight, we hit each other and on top of the ex having messages about that she also has months of messages of my opinion of my partner at the time. None of what I said was nice about her and I'm sure it will be used as evidence
The contact stopped because I took my daughter there, I know it was wrong of me to do but I didn't think my ex would find out. I now either have to sit back or try and regain access, I'm not sure of my chances
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