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Where do i go from here not seen my child since May.

 
(@thebigreddog)
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Hi I will try and keep my post as brief as possible but it's complex. 

Me and my ex partner seperated a few years ago, I was and continued to be an active part of my child's life until mid way through this year. I took my child to see a relative of hers (plutonic, same [censored] - if that's relevant, no romance 🤣) that my ex didn't want me to see.

I was not allowed to see this relative after we seperated, it was HER relative. This relative has removed all contact with my ex. This relative was told they could not see our child unless they re establish contact with my ex. They have not. 

I was subjected to having the access removed from my child on several occasions for continuing my relationship with the relative (also for doing other things she told me not to) When I took my Child along she removed all access and I haven't seen my child since. My child loved this visit BTW, my child got to see lots of family members they loved spending time with. 

I was initially allowed monitored phone calls.

My ex confirmed to me and the relative that all us doing seeing each other was resulting in me not seeing my child. 

I became concerned not seeing my child due to my exs behaviour and living conditions. My ex was messaging me telling me things she was telling my child. I was so unsure what to do i called NSPCC, I had genuine concerns. They were concerned enough after my call to raise a referral. But CS did not investigate, spoke to my ex and no more was done. 

Since this referral, my ex has made up a pack of lies about me and the relative been a safeguarding risk. Mostly about me and neglect and my character. 

My ex has harassed my oldest daughter so much, the police are investigating harassment, cyber bullying and stalking. 

The police have logged an harrasnent case for me and are collating evidence. I have sent them hundreds of pieces, including someone witnessing my ex hit me in front of my child. That only scrapes the surface, it runs deep over many years. 

The relative has had a NMO hearing granted against my ex for the whole family. 

My ex had no problem with the relative being in contact with my child until they stopped contact. This relative babysat and visited every weekend and even took my Ex older child on day trips and holiday without my ex. 

What my ex does is takes some form of a truth and wraps it in lies. I believe the 'evidence' she tells me she has, has been coaxed out of my child and twisted to her narrative. She sent me a video of her putting words into my child's mouth and saying to my child its daddy's fault this is happening. The police have also seen messages and said what she us doing is parental alienation. 

I originally applied to court for a c100. I had a solicitor who said due to history I should be able to bypass mediation. My ex refuses to talk to me nicely, she's vile. She has been told to stop due to harrasnent, but she ignores it, continues an onslaught of abuse.  The courts rejected the bypass of mediation. I have since reapplied as I have now logged everything with the police, I hadn't previously as the calls to my child was all I had, but she's stopped those now too. I will do mediation if I have to but would rather not be subjected to more of her abuse. 

I have no more money for a solicitor, what are my next steps, how long will it take to get a date, what do i need to do to prepare? I know she will go tooth and nail but my only hope is that so far she has been proven to lie... Tells me school think I'm vile (she hadn't even spoke to them), reported me to social service, but they have confirmed no plan has been put in place and as its a domestic dispute it needs to be sorted via those channels, tells me police are investigating, but police accidently confirmed there's no case logged for her.

 So I hope this follows through to court.II'm just missing my child so much. I have asked my ex to at least let my parents see her, but she laughed and said no because I fell out with my parents once. My child us being excluded from her whole paternal family.

I'm trying to keep the details vague in case she somehow comes across this but as I said there's a bit more complexity to it, nothing that Warrents me as a a risk or unfit parent, but I know she will use my past as character assination 😥

Any help great fully appreciated. 

 

 

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Topic starter Posted : 19/09/2024 10:30 pm
(@bill337)
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hi,

with right guidance you can self represent. feel free to get in touch if you need need help. sending you a private message.

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Posted : 20/09/2024 11:37 am

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