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long story short:
Been going through court for 3 years. Daughter spends more time with me due to mums drug and alcohol addiction, homeless, daughter very unsettled. Took it back to court in November due to mum relapsing and then getting caught drink driving, luckily not with my daughter but was supposed to be collecting her that day.
got given a guardian (finally) guardian great, hair strand came back chronic excessive alcohol and cocaine so urgent hearing applied for by the guardian to stop contact and have supervised on a Saturday for a few months. Guardian visited my home 2 weeks ago and mums on Friday. Since Friday guardian appears to feel sorry for mum. Hearing yesterday basically kept order the same and mum stated she doesn’t have an addiction problem and can drink occasionally even though she’d made an undertaking to the court never to drink or take drugs.
I feel completely baffled by this? How can someone completely change their mind from one meeting? I feel like giving up, the system is so corrupt, if it was me I’d have no contact. Only last hope is the pysch assessment which is due in April.
That is baffling to say the least, that a court would seemingly ignore the tests and past behaviour.
Yes, its strange. Can you casually ask the guardian what prompted the change of opinion?
it was because there is no effective remedy for women. If this was a man she would probably be ordered to go onto a DAPP course if she was abusive, or at least some kind of alcohol related course.
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