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Just a quick heads up on if you finally get awarded contact for your Child/Children in a Contact Centre.
Obviously I was over the moon to finally get awarded a contact order to see my 10 month old baby Girl after not seeing her for 8 long months but the wait doesn't end there and your Ex still holds the control!!!! much to my frustration.
Although I can easy go another 4 weeks after 8 months I think it's a tad unfair as this is how the system works when you are awarded contact in a Contact centre.
Once the order has been made the Judge passes you some self referral forms to where you apply on line so you have to go to www.naccc-selfreferrals.org.uk and that takes you to the naccc site you then have to fill in a 15 part application pay a Β£10 fee then they consider if you are eligible which is a bit strange??
Once they have accepted your application then you are issued with an 14 digit code which then check this..........send by post to your ex partner!!!!! [censored]???
She then is requested to do what you have done log on and use that code you have supplied to register that she is willing to participate in the contact procedure and check this..........SHE HAS 28 DAYS TO REPLY!!!! [censored]???? If she doesn't reply within that time and she can request an extension of up to 36 days!!!! then you have to re register pay another Β£10 and start the application all over again.
If she does do as she does they then send out a social worker to each of you who does a little interview which could take up to another 4 weeks before you are given your first date to see your child!!!
I have never heard such a load of old cobblers like it in my entire life, there is no way my controlling abusive bitter twisted ex is going to do any of that I can't believe the courts still leave her with all the control i find it completely amazing that they can do it this way it's untrue.
Now I may be wrong and she may be a good girl but I cant see it and after going 8 months with no contact I can go another couple of months but really????
It's just handing them control and If they are against contact, as your ex is, they can and will draw it out for as long as they can!
Talk about being in favour of the mother...grrrrrrr
Wow slim that is totally unfair I'm hoping my hearing doesn't come to that as she has threatened to me that I can only have a contact centre in the past. What happens if she doesn't cooperate with this? The court will punish her? I can't believe that is how the system is run mate but good luck and stick at it! Don't give up!
I can't quite believe it still I've sent the code to my ex by registered post but theres no way on earth she is going to log on to that site and register to allow me contact it's a complete joke.
On the plus side I have phoned the contact centre and the woman was really really nice and she was saying give it just under 3 weeks and if you have heard nothing then get in touch and they can start chasing her.
Now the contact centre is the first and third saturday of the month so this sat is out the window so it will be sat 23 at the earliest what utter bull****
This is the way they do things across the board now Dave mate they did warn my ex if she does not comply they will be serious consequences by the court yesterday and although everything has turned in my favour they still pandered to her every word she said but his baby doesn't even know him, hes got a broken nose so he cant be a good dad, we've booked 6 saturdays to go on days out, were going on holiday for 2 weeks, she;s got a ventilator, she might be ill, I might be ill, I might not be able to drop her off, he goes to the drug capitol of the world to dj the drug addict.......it was almost comical I was asked to leave the court room whilst they spent an hour getting her to agree to contact.
once contact is established its only for 3 months and the cafcass scum recommended unsupervised contact after that and the courts ordered to there word so after these 3 month are up it should be ok.
I'll give it 2 weeks then i will hastle the centre then another week go down to the court and put a complaint in as the judge did say we order contact asap as the longer it is the longer and harder it will be for dad to bond they really did push the boat out for me as I said befor the judge and magistrates were brilliant as they knew I meant business one of them did say "have you considered a change of career my foster?" lol π
My son was in court 5 weeks ago and was given contact at a centre. He still hasn't had anything sorted out. They did find one near to the mother and the paperwork has been submitted but unfortunately they are havng financial problems and they are closing down, so it is back to square one. Cafcass have found another centre that can accommodate him but it is during the week and my son works full time. He has taken so much time off for contact last time and court appearances etc, that he has no leave left. They make him feel as though he is not wanting contact as he can't attend.
I hope your ex pulls her finger out and sorts things for you quickly.
Haha slim I admire the effort you put in. Iv just wrote down everything I can think of that will favour me that she had said. Well atleast the punishment is there for her so maybe she will agree to it sooner than you think!
Keep us posted how it goes I have 4weeks on Friday left till my hearing
What a sack of [censored] that is cuddles is that through the naccc? I'm lucky as the centre is very good and well respected here although the way of contact is pants.
Im not holding my breath and I am expecting the worst but an order has been made everything is going in my favour now I've got my confidence the courts know I mean business so we shall see π
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