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Final hearing approaching.
This week I was so close to agreeing a concent order with the ex but being her irrational usual self it's all gone to pot and it looks like that we will be attending the grand finale.
So nearly everything was agreed overnights etc and I think I was being very reasonable meeting her with most her terms. We actually agreed 9/11 things on my list.
So here is the two she willing to fight in court over which I think is ridiculous considering the stress and cost so far.
1) I said I want 1/2 weeks holiday a year uk/abroad
She said he has to have his first holiday in uk he is 2 or not allowed to go abroad until he is 4. She does not fly surprise but saying she needs to be close incase he to distressed.
2) I asked for 2 nights 30/31 new year eve alternative she said no only 1.
What's the likely outcome of this? Surely the courts won't say I've got to take him away in Uk first time. I was planning weekend breaks eg France not 2 weeks in in Bahamas
Also she wants a residence order so what does that mean? I'm happy for him to live at hers but does this give her more rights over anything?
Cheers gent's got my chin up as nearly there.
Hi
In my experience, given your child's age, there's a fair chance that a court would order the first holiday to be in the UK if the decision is left to them.
Nobody can predict what a court would decide but two nights alternating at Christmas would seem like a reasonable request.
Are either of you represented? If so, it's likely you might be able to reach agreement before you go in the court room.
Given that you've agreed so many points, the court is likely to urge you to agree between yourselves before the hearing formally starts.
Do you have magistrates or a District Judge?
Thanks for your reply.
Both of us have Solitors and barristers and each hearing has basically been a tug of war and we have gone into the court room with the agreements between us. It's a shame we need to go to court and do this as it's a waste of alot of money but my ex is very difficult to deal with. We have had magistrates so far in first 2 hearings.
I can do a week in the UK for first holiday it would not be a end of the world. I feel like I'm getting little time as it is so my second request of 2 nights at new year not unreasonable I think.
This residents order she wants is this something I'm to be concerned of? I've read into it and don't seem to make much difference from what I've seen but could this give her more rights then me ?
Thanks
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