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Hi I’ve read that the ‘ norm’ for a 5 text old is every other weekend and midweek contact .
Does this reflect what you all see / have experienced on this forum ?
I do want alternate weekends but I’d like Friday pick up from school to Monday drop off at school . My ex has refused this because it wouldn’t be me doing the school runs as I work 6-6 Mon - Fri so she has said that if my son isn’t in my care then he should be with her . She’s offered Friday evening- Sunday evening.
I also want my partner to do the school runs for me but currently there is an interim order that my son can not come into contact with her due to potential emotional harm ( which I do not agree with ) does this make it virtually impossible for a judge to agree for my partner to do the school runs and look after my son until I’m home from work ?
Do you think I have a chance of getting this or not ?
Mine is 3 years old, i have him 6 days a fortnight. But i also work part time and dedicate my non working time purely to him.
hi,
unfortunately, courts and ex like to go with what cafcass recommends on most occassions. i asked for mid-week overnights. ex refused, and cafcass did not recommend, so i was stuck. instead i pick them up after school and see them for few hours.
ex only wanted me to have sat-sun. good thing cafcass didnt agree and went with standard fri-sun every other weekend.
What legal relationship is your partner to your son? Is she a blood/ legally adopted relation of his? Would she have grounds in her own right to ask the Courts to have contact with your son?
If not then you shouldn't be using her to do the school runs or other regular childcare.
I know ex step-parents who helped raise their step-children and no longer see them due to splitting with the step-children's parent. The only ones who have regular contact do because they have younger half-siblings of these step-children, and the step-children could apply to the Court to have regular contact with their half-siblings.
Nobody can predict what an individual court will decide. If the parties won't reach agreement following the cafcass recommendations then you will have to have a contested hearing and the judge will make a decision.
From experience, I think you are unlikely to get an order for your partner to do the pick up from school on a regular basis, but every case is individual.
I agree with Yoda... as the court has already seen fit to make an interim order prohibiting contact between them, you may find it a struggle to get that removed.
Best of luck with it.
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