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Hi All, I can't seem to access my old account, so I will ask again on this new account.
My situation is as follows.
2 children (10 and 5, both female)
I live with my parents in a 3 bedroom house (only 2 bedrooms currently habitable, 3rd can be made habitable with a fair amount of effort). At present, on the weekends, the 5yr old sleeps in the same room as my parents, the 10 year old in the same room as me.
Children live Monday to Friday with their mother, her partner and his father in a 3 bedroom property (the girls share a room, the mother and her partner share a room, and the partners father has his own room), Friday night - Sunday night the girls are with me.
I would like to get my children for the weekdays and their mother has them for weekends or at the minimum of a 50/50 split.
Given my circumstances, how do you think I would fair going through the courts? I know mediation would be the next step, but should that fail (as she is stubborn to say the least) how would I fair legally?
Would I stand a better chance if I live by myself or with my parents?
There is nothing stopping you from going for more contact. I would imagine they may assess your home and state if it is suitable or not, the fact that they are staying with you weekends anyway suggests it is fine? If you feel you are in a position to find a place of your own, then go for it, it will give you more space. If you already have a court arrangement in place, you can apply for a variation of the order if mediation does not work
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