[Solved] What the next BEST course of action

Hi and welcome,

I think your right to be thinking of your children through this and not yourself, I know it must hard to refrain from going in like a bull in a china shop to see your children.

As there is a contact order in place you do have rights to enforce it, have you spoken go your ex since? Has she said whether the children won't be coming next time?

She has to make the children available for contact at the agreed times and if she isn't as said it can be enforced, I think that for it were me I would be contacting her and reminding her that it's her responsibility to make the children available for you and that by not doing so she is in breach of the order, I'd want to see want to see what reply I got before going in strong, and I would always want to avoid the police being evolved as, as you've said that's not fair on the children.

How old are they?

Darren

Hi Darren

thanks for taking the time to reply.
My boys are 11 & 8
My next course of action is to file a C2 which as you probably know is the enforcement order... however i have very little hope that this will work..
what concerns me more is what "she" is actually telling the children while all of this is going on... its worrying..
I guess for no its best to keep plodding awes through court ..there isn't a hope in hells chance i would get custody i suppose

thanks again

Brilldad

Hi There,

No worries, it's what this site is all about.

I know what you mean about what she may be telling them, all you can do though is to continue as you are that will show them, no matter what she may say how much they mean to you.

going through the enforcement order will show her that you won't give up and hopefully make her change her attitude.........

.......well you can live in hope :whistle:

I have 2 8 year olds and they are starting to build their own minds and views shich is great fun. :woohoo:

Darren

Hi

I've moved this to the legal section - it's more appropriate for your question.

I think Darren has covered it above, and it sounds as if you know the process a fair bit. Unfortunately, as you are finding, it's a slow process if the mother won't comply with a court order, but keep plodding away, the courts will get tired of her not complying. Keep a diary of events (though I suspect youare already) - the mother cannot simply refuse to bring them because they don't want to and the courts are well aware that the resident parent may well be adding pressure for them not to "want" to.

I doubt that you would have much chance at residence unless there are concerns for the children's welfare, and even then it's an uphill struggle.

Hi Actd

thanks for moving... especially as a newbee i have no idea where i should be....

my major concern is that in the year i haven't seen my boys i have
1) no way of knowing let a lone proving what she may have said to them
2) have no faith that the court will act on it ..ie my relationship with the boys prior to this was normal and perfect.
therefore the change can only have been brought about by one protagonist ie her and or her family
otherwise there is very little reason for the change of demeanour toward me...

How do you or others think the land lies with that any one with first hand experience ..

best
brilldad

PS if that change of demeanour EVEN exists again no way of knowing

I'm afraid your circumstances are not uncommon, there's a lot of stories on here that are the same. Unfortunately, it's a matter of pluggng away through the courts again and again until they impose a penalty for not complying. If she repeatedly breaches, then it might be worth asking a court whether they would consider a residence order, but that would be after a number if breaches in my opinion.