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My own court appearances were not ideal - my daughter was 2 at the time and the final agreement stated that I had contact every Weds from 3pm to 7pm and then every weekend overnight from 3pm until 7pm but alternate the start date i.e. Fri 3pm one week and then Sat 3pm the other. However from 2015 this will change so that I have every weekend Fri 7pm to Sun 7pm with the Weds remaining the same, but the other week would be just Tues and Thurs for the same time as the Weds.
I have just found out that buses are difficult to get to be back home before 8pm on the Fri, so I proposed changing time to 6pm. Today my ex counter proposed to instead remove the Tues 2nd week visit and add it onto the weekend visit, meaning that it becomes Fri 3pm to Sun 7pm. This would mean that there would be a gap of four days and then six days before I see my daughter again. Plus it would mean less twoing and froing for my daughter. Do you think that this is sufficient quality time to spend with my daughter and what could I do on those long weekends?
Hi there
I think it's how you feel about this. Perhaps you could propose some kind of indirect contact such as Skype or FaceTime to replace the midweek that your ex wants to remove. As you say it would mean less toing and froing for your daughter.
If you are unhappy it might help to use mediation to try and reach a compromise that you would be happy with.
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