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This year I got contact time with my son. Its been going well with a few mishaps, on her side, which I have not said anything about. A few weeks ago I asked her if we could alternate the Fridays on picking our son up from school (her dad picks him up 3-4 days a week). This way I get to see his friends and teachers etc. Today she text me, 3 weeks later after giving her a little reminder, saying "I'm sorry but I don't think it's not a good idea. The court order states that you pick him up from my dads and Kian knows his routine now. It would have no benefit to Kian, if anything it would just confuse him".
OK, we didn't talk about school as he was only 3 and school wasn't mentioned, plus the fact I pick him up here there and everywhere, and do the same when dropping him off. Not once have I complained, even know the court order states I pick him up from her dads, and drop him off at his mums. Even when I went to the parent meeting the judge ordered both to go to, which I do not think she has been! They did say, work things out between us, as if we keep going to court, they will not be happy as we can't sort things out ourselves. I just want to be a part in my sons life, education and everything else. So am I being unreasonable to be wanting to pick my son up from school?
Many thanks
Scott
Hi Scott
No you're not...perhaps you could write to her and point out that you have been flexible with dropping off and would hope that she could reciprocate.
Being involved in your child's education and progress is one of the few rights that Parental Responsibility gives, so perhaps you could include a copy of the governments guidelines on the duties as far as parental responsibility is concerned.
The other option is mediation.
http://www.separateddads.co.uk/download-parental-responsibility-guide-letters.html
Thank you for your response and I've tried mediation but she refused it. I think I will send her an email and like you said, outline the government guidelines.
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