[Solved] What do i need to do?

You can apply to the court to prevent a move as Scotland is classed as another country. If she has family back there, then she may have a good argument for the court to allow the move.

Hi there

As actd has said, the only way to prevent a move would be to make an urgent, ex parte court application for a Prohibited Steps Order. It might not stop the move, but it would delay it whilst the court looked at your case more fully, before making a decision.

If you feel,that the mother would be making the move to prevent contact between you and your son and could provide evidence to that effect, the court would be more favourable. However, as actd quite rightly points out, as she is from Scotland and her family and roots are there, this would also be looked t favourably.

What you would concentrate on is the fact that she is unwilling to agree to a schedule of contact and travel arrangements after she moved, that you are unable to discuss the details of the move in respect of accommodation she has arranged and suitability of the school he would be moving to and what she has in place to provide financially after the move.

I agree that your only option is to make an urgent application for a PSO. You can do that using a form C100 and taking it down to your local court. You should get a hearing the same day.

It doesn't necessarily mean that you will be able to prevent the move forever, but even if it is allowed, at least this way you will have a court order that lays out when your son sees you and how the travel is undertaken.

Best of luck

Thanks for the replies.

She hasn't told me she is leaving yet, we basically haven't spoken since I made my post.

She probably wont be leaving imminently anyway, she doesn't actually have anywhere to go as such, or finances to allow such a move. I also think she would probably give me reasonable access to my son. There is no good reason not to, there is no history of abuse or infidelity or anything like that, and although she thinks I am an awful husband, she doesn't seem to question me as a father.

I still expect her to bang the final nail into the coffin of our marriage at any point soon. She will possibly hang around until we are forced to sell our house(well, my house its not in her name at all, we are going to be compulsory purchased within the next year or so).

Do you want to save your marriage or have you given up ?

From the language you are using here it sounds as if you’ve thrown in the towel.

If you want to try and save it, read this, I’m sure it will help in some way:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mans-Guide-Women-Scientifically-Secrets/dp/1511392959

If it’s urgent, get it as an audiobook and start straight away. Best of luck.

Or if reading a book is too big a hurdle, try this talk from the author and see if you think it’s worth it:

https://youtu.be/AKTyPgwfPgg

I have just watched that video. Thanks. It is really really good. I have read and looked at a lot of stuff since this started. I imagine we all do. This is one of the best if not THE best. Recommended. It turns out my wife and I had a very good relationship. I always knew it but surprised to see it so confirmed. The trouble is she is now so angry (and was always extremely defensive in an argument - it was her only unreasonable characteristic except tending to take it for granted that she knew best for our children) that she remembers it as something totally different. I wish somebody could explain how to get through to our wives when they're in the sort of hard-as-nails self-righteous vindictive state of mind that seems par for the course in this situation.

You and I are on a different boat staggered, if I'm honest I don't think there's a way back, the only way is forward. There is the one off case you hear about where a separating couple move forward in opposite directions and eventually meet again, but don't hold your breath for that, it's not going to happen. I still find this information useful, not to save the relationship with my child's mother, that's beyond repair, but to make the next one work.

The original poster though seems to potentially be in a position where he may still be able to turn things around and that may be beneficial for all involved. Certainly very difficult to do, but worth a shot.

Yes - I can't see any option but to agree with you but my own situation remains kind of unclear. We've been separated 8 months and while I can't the logic or justice in the split I am not sure I could go back even if she wanted to - at least not as things were. There are too many things I want to do now that I couldn't and - to be honest - I have been pi$$ed upon so much I don't think I can forgive. Two months ago I said that we need to start talking or start divorcing and she announced she had already started proceedings a few days earlier but I have yet to hear anything from her solicitor or the courts. The big thing about her attitude that's really hurting me is the kids are following her lead. She says she isn't influencing them against me but it's hard to believe. It's quite amazing how the most reasonable and decent person can turn half crazy and vindictive in this situation but it seems to be usual.