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Hi I'm a dad and I have full costidy of my 4 yr old son. He mum has him on every other weekend but last weekend I see her out with her new bf on there own. I went to her house to fined that my son was on his own as I called the police so I could get my son out the house they pull up and said that she dose it all the time and I can prove nothing. I did take my son and went she came the other day to pick him up till told her she wasn't have him because he get left alone. So I just want some advice on what to do because there is court order saying see can see him but I don't want him to go if he's gonna be left alone. Dose anyone have any advice for me it would really help thank for reading.
Hi there
You did the right thing, your priority is to protect your son and make sure he is safe.
Even though she has court ordered contact, you as the resident parent can act and stop contact if your child is at risk. It will be up to her to take you back to court to enforce the order. My son has been in the same position and wasn't punished for stopping contact as he was safeguarding my grandson.
You can write her a letter stating that she had put your child at risk by leaving him home alone and her admission that she does it often is of great concern to you. State that you can only allow contact to resume either in a Contact Centre or if a trusted third party, such as a family member, would be prepared to supervise. Also tell her you are taking advice from Social Services and having taken legal advice you are within your rights to suspend contact when there are serious sageguarding issues.
If you write to her make sure you keep a copy of the letter and get proof of postage, if you go to the Post Office counter and ask for this they will provide you with a slip as proof of postage, this is free of charge. Or alternatively you can send it by recorder delivery.
If you would like to speak to someone about your legal position you can call Corams Legal Advice line, here's a link to their contact details.
http://childlawadvice.org.uk/clas/contact-child-law-advice/
It would be a good idea to call the Social Services and report what happened and ask them to log it as she may try and take action against you. Did you call the police? They will then have a log of what happened, if you didn't call them, you can do so now and speak to them about what happened and ask for their advice and whether they can log what happened.
Best of luck
Hi There,
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I agree with Mpjp, you did the right thing, a 4 year old shpuldn't be left alone at all so to admit it happens a lot is a worry, follow the advice above and log everything with the police and SS and send the letter to your ex setting out your reasons for stopping contact.
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I would also inform the courts of the action you have taken and give them the references that you should get from the police and SS.
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When you write to your ex send it recorded delevery so you have proof it's been recieved, proof of postage is good to prove you sent something but it doesn't prove she recieved it.
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GTTS
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