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Hey guys. Long story short my ex has tried to place a nonmole against me. There are lies all throughout the document etc. Claiming I was financially controlling forgetting the fact she was out of work and over a total of 7 years bank statements I paid £115k towards the house utility bills alone, yet she paid £15k! Furthermore I gave her over £5k to do what she wanted with but also paid for all her other bits as well. She also admitted to attacking me before in that document, deleting evidence and that's when our relationship brokedown, however because I'm disabled and had adapted the house for this reason I stayed up until recently.
A few weeks back I found out she had been having multiple affairs so quizzed her on this. I took her phone off the kitchen side which was unattended and I was punched and pulled to the floor by her. I was brutally attacked by her and her dad and I was the one that was arrested because her dad had a scratch mark and she had a bruise and hand marks on her neck all because they rang before I did. I didn't cause these marks on her neck and believe she caused them herself to get me into trouble. I know this as my medical recently States about my grip in my hands not being present and when they took finger prints the guy confirmed this also.
At the first hearing I contested the non mole as she has clearly been lying and I need to remain in the house because I am due an operation that is life changing. I have since put a proposal forward that we have 50% share of the house and 50% share of the kids to which her solicitor came back with "she proposes you see them for 1 hour a week in a contact center". Issue being, I know her friends works at that contact centre and I have never attacked her or the kids. It's me that's been abused. Made to sleep on a sofa despite paying all of the bills.
Now I am a fully able dad dispite my disability and I have submitted my c100, however, she always used to say if I tried to get custody she would use my disability against me in the courts. She has also controlled my access to my daughter's phone. Changing it and changing her email as well.
The 1 hour slot shows that she is trying to control me even more.
What do I do!!!!!
hi,
sounds like a very rough time for you. sit tight. its good that you submitted the c100. wait for a court date. ignore ex's rubbish offer of 1 hour a week. how old are your kids?
Unfortunately, you need to buckle up for a bumpy ride.
It is not going to be a swift process and it's good that you've put in an application in regarding the children.
Keep posting and we will do what we can to support you.
If you can afford to, it's worth taking some legal advice.
Best of luck
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