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- I can provide the preamble but:
x2b is refusing negotiation or mediation, We have solicitors but its not really going anywhere, its just letters and costs, and she refuses what I propose and I just have to suck eggs and take what she does it seems...
Any advice?
If she refuses mediation people say it wont look good, but what does that mean?
What do I need to have or prove to get joint custody and overnight stays etc?
I can elaborate if it helps, along with a detailed preamble of whats happened.
If she's refusing mediation, then the next step is court anyway, so you must expect that she won't agree to your proposals any more than in the past. Your solicitor should be advising you of the best next step.
It's very easy for things to be dragged out, especially when solicitors are involved.
If she is refusing mediation, the only next course of action available to you, is a court application.
Whilst it's not ideal if she refuses mediation, in my experience, this doesn't usually get given much air time during proceedings.
There isn't a list of set criteria for getting shared care and overnight stays - it depends on what the court can get you to agree, and if you can't agree, the decision will be left to a judge & nobody can predict what that will be.
As a rule of thumb, a bog standard decision is alternate weekends, a midweek visit & a share of special occasions and school holidays. Some people have more, some have less.
Your solicitor will be able to advise you of all of this and prepare you for the hearing. There is of course, the option of representing yourself.
Good luck
Hi. I recently went to court. My ex refused mediation and it was not mentioned once. I heard also that it doesn't look good but the courts didn't seem to care but that was just my experience.
Good luck.
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