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Hi All,
Just wanted to hear from dad's with court orders on what arrangement you have to see your child/children over the christmas period?
Also, did the court grant you contact during half terms?
Thanks,
Hi,
My court order specifies the following:
Sunday to Sunday Autumn half term
Day school breaks up to morning Boxing Day or morning Boxing Day to New Years Day alternating each year
either Friday to Wednesday lunchtime or Wednesday lunchtime to Sunday Spring half term (depending upon when my normal access weekend falls)
Friday to Friday one week in Easter
either the first or last weekend for Summer half term (Friday to Sunday depending upon when my normal access weekend falls)
16 days in the summer holidays (to be taken in the first four weeks) plus an additional weekend.
ex started playing silly beggers with the previousl arrangement order, restricting when I could see them during the holidays - so had to go back to court to get a more specific (and therefore restrictive) order
Hope this helps
Thanks for the response! That is what my partner is looking to do, get a more specific order in place.
So half term is split by you having 1 half term, sharing the 2nd and the 3rd the mother has the days and you have your normal weekend access. (interesting and quite a good option)
I have 1 question in regards to xmas - christmas access depends on who has christmas day - but does that mean your alternate weekends mess up? and do you revert back to your normal weekends or continue the pattern from christmas/new year arrangment?
Also, do you get to see your child on their birthday? if so, was this agreed by court order?
Thanks again!
It's probably a good idea to ask for more than you would be ok with. I would just stick to half of all school holidays, alternate Christmas and birthdays, a couple of hours for the child's birthday, when it's not the parents turn. Father's Day if it falls outside of your weekend and the same for the mother.
Funnily enough the ex goes away during the summer half term and I had offered her the whole summer half term if I had the autumn. She refused and so the half terms are split, as described, and she misses the first two/three days of her holiday (she still goes away) because of her stubbornness.
With regards xmas - the current arrangement has only been in place for a couple years, so this is only the second xmas with it in place, Previously I had from Boxing Day until 30/31st Dec, then I has another child and wanted to have my two xmas eve/xmas day to they were their to see their brother open his presents.
the access weekends start back up in the new year and revert back to the normal weekend arrangements
my partner has a different arrangement with her ex alternating 24-28/29 Dec each year (so she has her son for Xmas and Boxing Day alternate years)
Thanks for the update!
Just wondering what arrangements work for others and trying to figure out what might be best for my partner, so thank you again for the reply π
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