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Made the worst mistake of my life and I had a one night stand with a girl I don’t know, cheating on my partner who I am committed to make things right again with.
She has decided to keep the baby even though I stated from the very first second I found out that she was pregnant that I didn’t want any part of hers or the child’s life but would provide maintenance.
I want no contact and I don’t even want to meet the child, she lives in Ireland so I’m not sure what the rules are.
She is refusing to accept that I don’t want to raise the child with her and wants us to raise it as a family but I do not know her and do not want to know her let alone raise a child I do not want with her. Which I know sounds awful but she made this decision knowing how I felt and now is surprised that I’m sticking to what I said.
I have a few questions -
do I have to have my name on the birth certificate? Even if the paternity test does prove i am father, or does there need to be my permission regardless?
We live in different countries so seeing the child would not logistically work anyway, can this be forced upon me?
Other than maintenance do I have any other legal obligations?
This whole thing is ruining my life, I used a condom so took precautions for this to not happen but she is adamant that the child is mine. Any information would be greatly appreciated as I’ve had a look but not sure what is correct. Thanks
hi,
if your the father, then your legal obligation will be to pay child maintenance. if she took you to court, they can not force you to see the child. if your name is not on the birth certificate, then it would stay that way, unless you made an effort to get your name on it, like applying to court if your ex refuses.
I would think that she can put your name on the birth certificate as the father, as it's a statement of fact.
She won't be able to name you as the father if you are not with her when she registers the birth. She needs documents to prove you are the father which she won't have if you haven't admitted anything. Thats how it is in England, not sure about Ireland but logic says its the same.
I would think that she can put your name on the birth certificate as the father, as it's a statement of fact.
Apologies - I got that wrong. Champagne's advice is correct.
Once the child is born, you can ask for a DNA test if you aren't certain the child is yours.
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