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Hi.
Final hearing approaching. Currently have my 2 year old sat/sun daytime and every other weds for Couple hours.
Things with ex are pretty much how they was from the start. Very unwilling to compromise.
I'm going for every other weekend fri-sun, holidays etc. The one thing is my circumstances have changed and I've had great news from my work and that they are willing to be flexible with my times. Additionally I will be asking for one night overnight stay per week. Ex lives 15 mins away
What's the likely hood of this being granted. I have my child in the week for 2hrs at the moment and most time is stuck in rush hour taking him home so I think it would be great for a weekday overnight buy ex don't want me to even have me in his life at all so pointless asking.
Thanks.
It's really down to the court on the day, but I think the argument of the time spent in the car is a good one as this isn't ideal for any child.
The fact that you both live fairly locally to one another should work for you, most judges will defer to the alternate full weekend and weekly midweek schedule, so you really aren't asking for more than is generally accepted as the "norm".
Best of luck
Thanks for your replys. Part of me wants to put the suggestion forward to my ex as she did once say that when his older he might want to stay over but she keeps saying he will decide what he wants to do but the way I see it is he to young to make the decision but as long as he is happy which he is at the moment then hopefully everything will fall into place.
I think I'm going to have to go for element of surprise with this request as the more time I suggest spending with my son the more angry the ex gets which leads to more lies and allegations.
Slowly but surely I'm getting there and our time together been fantastic. If I get only couple hours in the week so be it but I would be a little gutted.
Fingers crossed and I let people know on here how I get on.
Thanks.
I agree, your son is far too young to be making such decisions, leave it to the court, they will try and get you both to agree to progress contact anyway, let's hope she will see the futility of objecing and agree to overnights...I'm pretty sure, if she won't, the court will...he's old enough and you are establishing a close bond with him through regular contact.
All the best
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