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We had our first hearing, had hoped to get interim contact as was recommended by CAFCAS but the judge didn't push because mum is adamant the DC don't want to see me.
I am devastated, DC have been turned against me so there is no contact until they have been interviewed and more checks carried out
Section 7 etc, thing is lots of things about mum coming up but they didn't mention any of that 🙁
If the children don't want to see me is all hope lost?!
Hi there
The judge should have been firmer, if CAFCASS were recommending interim contact, they must have been happy that there were no safeguarding issues.
Hopefully the more detailed report will be favourable and contact can resume.
The children could just be telling their mum what they think she wants to hear, kids can be protective of a parent if they see that they're upset.
All the best
I think that this is a very good point, I know in my partners case when the child is spoken to with the mother present cafcass received different answers as opposed to be spoken to on their own.
Even to the extent that my partners child speaks about a book at her mothers home that has everyone she loves which included her mother father and mothers bf (but not me) and she openly said to her dad - she would like me to be in the book but mummy will be upset if i was in the book. So either she said to her dad what he likes to hear or does what will make her mum happy either way she is acting in a way to please the parent she is with.. So I've definitely got to agree with mojo that children can say what they think will make you happy depending who they are with..
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