[Solved] Volatile Relationship Between Parents

Thats exactly where I'm at mate my ex will not even talk to me she has refused any sort of contact what so ever she refuses mediation, goes to court and waits in a separate waiting area pretends to faint when she sees me it's crazy then everyone says well we are denying you any sort of contact because the mother says so its unreal.

I' would love to hear from someone who has had the same and found a way to talk and sort something out for the kids sake I can't see how it ever will get resolved to be fair.

Slim

My situation is the same! seems to be the norm with these kind of Mothers

Mine Ex seems to have that much hatred towards me that I honestly think she's mentally ill

It is a strange situation to be in when all you want to do is help bring up you're own children!!

It's quite frankly ridiculous. Almost every party that goes through proceedings do so because there is a break down in communication and in most cases it is volatile between the parties. How can Cafcass then turn around and say no direct contact because the parents relationship is volatile? I'm prepared to do mediation, seperated parents course etc etc but my ex simply isn't and because of her stance I'm the one who loses my child. There is also an issue that as me and my child are estranged and because of his young age he needs someone familiar with him at the first few contact sessions however know one from her family are willing to do that.

Surely the whole point in court is to order that they do it rather than sucking up to them and agreeing with their every demand?

I have court on Thursday for another review hearing, the suggestion is to go to a final hearing. I personally think that's a dodgy route to go down at the moment due to the unpredictability. I would rather go down the route of trying to sort this so say volatile Relationship out prior to that. I want to demonstrate to the court that I am able to put differences aside and work for the benefit of the child, as I already do from a previous relationship. Any suggestions?

I've got a feeling that I'll end up with no direct contact because my ex refuses any sort of contact, she is getting coached of her health visitor who used to be a DV officer so I think I'm pretty screwed I'm still going to carry on fighting like a dog though 🙂

It feels like to me Cafcass and the courts are afraid to basically force mother to allow contact when there is Dv claims such as in both of ours. All we can do is fight and if that is not enough then I don't know. My solicitor has asked me to have a think about what suggestions I may come up with which may help diffuse the situation but apart from mediation which is likely to be rejected I'm struggling for ideas.

The strangest thing is I know a female friend of mine is currently going through court denying the father of her child contact because he broke into her house and assaulted her, tried to kidnap the child and now has a restraining order. He also has many child abusers in his family. Cafcass and by coincidence the same judge as mine has told my friend despite all the evidence she has if she continues to deny contact then residence will be switched.

Yet with myself there is no evidence but contact is denied. The system is very strange and inconsistent from case to case.

I have to agree that Cafcass aren't willing to make any decision in favour of the father if allegations of DV have been made by the Ex

Even if the DV claims are false with no evidence to back them up Cafcass will not make a decision in favour of the father as they are scared of it coming back on them if anything happens

At least I'll have a copy of all the court docs to give to my daughter when she is old enough to understand why I've been denied contact.