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I have had to pay £600 a month to my ex wife for life by Court order. I have no savings, I've been made redundant and cannot get another job.
My ex wife is 70 has her own home with no mortgage and about £100,000 in savings.
She won't negotiate so I have to go to court to vary the Order. She's got a Barrister who says they want my pension which won't start for another 18 months.
I need my pensions, what's her chance of getting them?
I wouldn't like to say...you would hope that the court would take both of your financial situations into account and vary the spousal maintenance accordingly, but the option is there for the court to order you share your pension with her.
Because of the implications for you I would advise getting a legal opinion on this, some solictors offer a free initial consultation and this might be helpful to get some advice on where you stand.
You might like to visit a website called Wikivorce as they specialise in giving advice about divorce and all it's implications, they also have a forum and a helpline.
www.wikivorce.com
Best of luck with it all
I would hope (but it is only a hope) that the court would weigh up the total value of her savings against the value of your pension and equalise them between you. Let's hope common sense prevails.
Hi Martin,
Wow I am sorry to hear that you have been made redundant.
This court order sounds a little one sided, given your current circumstances, was it made recently or a few years back?
Gooner
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