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She offered a different day duribg the week in lieu of the trainibg day.
I could switch with ease, but thats been my day for years and I dont think she has a right trying to tell me what do quite frankly.
And the son texting me asking can he go I think is her attempting parental alienation. Lets see how she likes it when the tables are turned
Hi there,
Given your son is 12, has clearly expressed his wishes to attend this football training, and you've stated you could easily change the midweek day he is with you, I think you could consider changing days. I agree it is not for your ex to go arranging activities for times your son is meant to be with you (quite disrespectful), but it seems you are also worried that your son might get the idea that he could start changing other aspects of the order you have. Perhaps you could make it clear that this change is a 'one-off' change to allow him to do this activity.
If you are wanting to vary the order to have an increase of time, then you should attend the mediation your ex is setting up and see if you can get agreement on this, and if not then proceed on to court. Be aware that your son is old enough to have his wishes taken into consideration in court, so you might need to have some confidence that he will want an increase in time with you, and you showing some flexibility in regards to the football training might make him more favourable to this. As stated by others, I don't think you would lose your midweek, and I don't think you have sufficient grounds as yet for a change in residency, not based on what you've stated. You could ask for 50/50, primarily as leverage for an increase in time.
hi,
it sounds like you need to really focus on your childs needs and wants, and stop hating on the ex. so many of us dads came across this issue of asking court for mid week, then told that mum has placed child into some after school activity and childs routine should not be disrupted. if i wanted mid week contact then basically i had to go along with it.
boys love football. you risk alienating your son and pushing him away from you. just switch days. ex is always going to be a pain in the backside, and it's not realistic to go to court for every minor issue.
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