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Personally, I would suggest seeing if you could swap your day instead and let your son join the club if he wants to. Have you spoken with him about it, it may upset him if he really wants to join. I always feel both parents need to be reasonable and cooperate and focus on what is best for your child. It may not be ideal, but if you can accommodate a different day, I would suggest that, in my opinion.
He has text asking could he join the football team. Thevway I see it though I give into this where does it end? He will soon want to start switchinf and changing everything. He doesnt get a say if I am being honest, hes a child. Why should I let a child dictate what will happen in my time.
His mum has text again, and ive told her straight that she doesnt get a say in what happens in my house or time with him and neither does our son so stop letting him think he has a say.
She simply responded with the order only lasts until hes 16, keep acting like this and the minute hes 16 he will not want to see you.
Can i use this in court as proof of alienation? I refuse to give ky time up with him and if she keeps pushing what are my odds of 50/50 or residency honestly.
hi,
if I was in your position, I would tell her to do club thing in her own time with the kids, or offer to switch to tuesday from wednesday. as she started mediation, if you don't attend, then you will be seen as unreasonable one. this does sound petty. court will probably be annoyed and may think something like this should not be a reason to return to court.
my ex always gives me great reasons to return to court, and i just go there with big shopping list of demands to increase days/nights with kids. EOW and 3-4 hours mid week EOW is not good enough for both dad and kids
She says the club cant be in her time becauses its only on tuesdays at the school the practice.
Bill so you think id have success going for 50/50 or full residency? Do you get what you ask for when you go back to court?
What would I need to say to convince the court for residency or 50/50? Would they give my son a say in the 50/50 or residency?
Would she need to agree to 5050 because she definitley wont
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