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Hello all.
Ive had a court order in place for 3 years now. Everything was going as well as could be. No stupid games from the ex or anything, very flexible with each other when needed, she was always very accomadating. Our communication could be better on both parts.
She asked me too talk in regards to the order. I have EOW and one night a wrek for tes that he doesnt stay and half the holidays. She wants to change the night i have for tea and give me them hours on the sleepover weekebd because our Son wants to join a club at school that is on my particular day. I asked her could he not do it on any other day, she responded with no. I told her I would think about it. She broached it again this weekend and I told her I still need time because I dont think I could go that long without seeing him.
So imagibe my surprise today getting a phone call for mediation!! I text her asking why shd had gone this extreme, and she responded its noy fair on our son he really wants to join the team and shes been patient waiting for my decision. I told her just because shes involved a mediator doesnt mean I will agree. Shes told me if we cant come to an agreement that suits us both she wont hesistate in going to court and the court wouldnt look to fondly at me, as she isnt taking anytime away and its for our son.
Ive told her if she wants to go court so be it but she dorsnt get the final say.
In all honesty will the courts remove my midweek time with my son? If they do could i go for more time like extra days or even 50/50
Thanks
Courts could order anything , maybe if your kids club could be on a different day to the one they stay with you then they’ll tell the ex to just change the club to not interfere . If 50-50 is an option you want then def apply . No harm if you can snow it d be practical
Courts wouldn't take your midweek day away. its down to you what you do with your son during your contact and wether he goes to a school club or not.
Infact she is encroaching your limited time with son by enrolling him in a school club on your day. also your son wouldn't see you for 2 weeks and a court wouldn't allow that.
You can either refuse to take your son to school club as its your decision to make, change your day if that's possible. or agree to club ,but change midweek day to overnight contact.
One thing for sure you wont lose your midweek day just cause ex is been malicious
This is hopeful, because my soliciyor seems to disagree with you.
She has said because of the age of our son, and him genuinley wanting to join this club courts would ask him his opinion as it doesnt seem like this is something my ex hasnl orchestrated and its my sons choice might be wise to agree.
She also said because my ex has been more than accomodating and no history of frustration of contact it migjt not go well. My solicitor also said because she has gave several ways around this situation it could be seen as im being petty for the sake of it.
The ex had offered to switch the date. I have him wednesdays she asked could it be tuesday - my solicitor said because I dont have genuine reasons like work commitments for refusing tuesday it will be looked upon as game playing. She offered to add 4 hours tea time onto my sleep weekend and 3 facetime calls the week I dont see him. My solicitor said as I only have 3 hours for tea during the week shes actually gave an hour extra and additionals calls is also favourable and once again I dont have a coherent reason as to why im rejecting these solutions.
I dont want my ex telling me what I can and cant be doing. She doesnt get any say in what I do, nd to think im paying this solicitor for her to ignore my wishes and basically agree with my ex is pathetic. Think i need a new solicitor!!!!!!!
My solicitor seems to think I would get torn to shreds for even asking for 50 50 as it looks like im doing it out retaliation of being asked to attend mediation and have not had a provlem with our current set up to suddenly ask for 50-50 would be bizarre. Looking for a new solicitor! :boohoo:
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