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I made an arrangement with both my ex wife and the CSA, that as long as kept regular contact with my son which involved a 500 mile round trip once a month, the CSA would not have to be involved.
Now after 3 years, my ex wife has demanded £2500 in arrears and the CSA have aggressively pursued her claim with threats.
The CSA have totally denied any communications between myself or my ex wife concerning this matter, which I know is false and can now longer afford to visit my son.
The CSA leaflet states that it takes into account both sides before coming to a decision.
This is totally false and is very much a one sided argument.
Is my ex wife allowed to use the CSA as her personal savings account and why was I never informed that my ex wife had not contacted the CSA regarding this agreement?
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Have you been making any maintenance payments directly to your ex and if so, is there any record of these payments? Also, when were the CSA first contacted by your ex (ie how far back do these arrears go) and when did they first contact you?
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