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Hi,
I have a shared residency arrangement with my son's mother. It has never been enshrined in a court order and, therefore, she is still perceived to be the parent with care. This hasn't really been a problem, but my instincts are telling me to tread carefully due to her behaviour in recent months.
My son carries both mine and his mother's surname. This is how it appears on his birth certificate and how he has always been addressed. Last week I noticed that my surname had been removed from how his name appears on registers at school club and school.
I have told his mother that I think this is just a mistake and not a deliberate action on her part, but I have asked her to speak with the staff involved and bring the error to their attention.
Her response was to tell me to sort it out myself? I've explained that I'd love to but, despite having PR, the school club and school will still refer this to her before making an amendment as they view her as the parent with care.
I have a suspicion that she's trying to antagonise me, but I'm not going to bite. Hopefully she'll see sense and everything will sort itself out. However, if she these corrections are not made, what can I do to encourage the school into amending them? Surely if I write to them pointing out that I have PR that should be enough? WIll they want to see evidence of PR? Birth certificate, etc?
I would write to the school with a copy of the birth certificate and a printout of the relevant section on PR from the government website https://www.gov.uk/parental-rights-responsibilities/what-is-parental-responsibility
and point out that they are acting illegally by referring to your son by a different name without your permission - you could tone it down at first by suggesting they take legal advice on this, rather than simply accepting the mothers word.
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