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If anyone is willing to discuss via pm that would be very welcome. It is an active police investigation so I'm reluctant to pit anything public.
My son is currently with me, just gone over scheduled holiday time. Something came to light regarding his mother which the police are investigating. Social services told me to keep him with me while police investigate. I've just heard that social services have finally gotten hold of her (after her ignoring them and the police for two days!) apparently there has been a CP conference in our absences and once she attends their offices to sign copies of the CP plan, social services are happy for her to have her children back. I was just being civil to get through the holidays for our son and planning on making an application to the court in January but I feel this recent turn of events has forced my hand. I firmly believe he's in danger with her. I don't know what to do. I can't send him back to that.
Hi there
You can pm me if you need to talk, although I will be busy I will keep checking back.
You could call the police and discuss it with them, ask them what they would do if you kept your child and the mother contacted them to get him back. Generally, if you have PR and there are safeguarding issues the police won't usually get involved, so you should be ok. You would then get an urgent application into court on Monday.
The police have dropped the investigation and social services got her to sign a "safety agreement" warning her it will be escalated to child protection if anything happens again. I'm furious.
...I know, it makes a mockery of their duty of protection, but they seem to want to give a neglectful parent multiple chances at the child's expense....I'm surprised there aren't more tragedies happening.
Generally, given enough rope she will hang herself, but in the meantime you must be extra vigilant, record everything and try and be in his life as much as you can.
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