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Hi,
Basically i have a court order and it states that i have to pick my son up tomorrow at 9 o clock, this would not be a problem but right now it is because of the weather. My only means of transport is either the bus or taxi services, both of these as of now are cancelled due to the snow. I'm hoping tomorrow they will be running tomorrow but i've tried texting my ex and explaining and she says if i don't show up at 9 then she will phone the police.
I've tried phoning the court but it just keeps ringing out, not sure what i'm supposed to do now as i don't want to be in the wrong.
Any advice appreciated.
Regards
Hi
Is there any one you know with a car that might be able to help you?
If you are unable to pick him up because of severe weather disruption, then it is really out of your hands! Just keep the txts between you and the ex as proof of her unreasonable behaviour. If you are feeling really worried, you could phone the police yourself about the situation, tell them that your ex is threatening to call them if you dont turn up, and ask that they log your call.
I've asked my brother as he's the only person that would help me out with a car and he says if the roads aren't too treacherous then he will take me but obviously it's not safe to pick my son up in such conditions. Do you think it's best to phone the police tonight and let them know of the situation anyway just in case tomorrow i can't make it to pick my son up. I guess i will only know tomorrow what's going on.
Thank You
...If it puts your mind at rest then theres no reason why you cant contact them later, you could also txt your ex after you've spoken to them, and let her know you've talked to the police, just to save her the trouble! Keep it pleasant and tell her that as much as you want to see him, you are putting his safety first. Check the weather forecasts for your area, its pretty bad here but the main roads are ok. I believe the snowstorms are set to continue though.
I think as she is threatening phoning the police, thats good enough reason to phone them anyway, just to clarify your situation and express your concerns.
I'm probably too late for this, but will clarify. A contact order is an order on the parent with care to have a child ready for contact at the allotted time. It does not order the non-resident parent to turn up, and there can be no enforcement to make the non-resident parent to turn up. If your ex were to phone the police, apart from them contacting you to make sure nothing had happened to you, they wouldn't get involved at all. If you ex were to try to go to court to get the order enforced, then they'd tell her not to waste their time, especially considering the circumstances beyond your control. If you were to miss contact on a regular basis (as my ex did) , then there may be a case for getting contact reduced, but not after just the odd occasion.
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