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I have been in an intractable court session with my ex and things have escalated from family court to county court. Essential I am the resident parent as my ex left the kids as she couldn't cope. since then she has constantly hounded me and the children in relation to access. When she does have access she bad mouths me and my partner and poses questions to the children such as "I wonder how long she (my partner) will stay around for, you know she will eventually get tired and leave your dad.. everyone else has... then you will have no one" and other ridiculous taunts.
I have withheld contact and the court see me as the violator although I believe I have good grounds as she has in the past neglected the children, threatened to take them to a non Hague agreement country (no hope of returning them), and the children have recently reported that she also was violent to them when they live with her.
I have professionals involved, Drs, Camhs etc but the children get confused and do not provide a coherent interviewees. (eg saying they never want to see their mum on one day and the next day saying they do).
I am now being accused of stonewalling and deliberately trying to find fault with my ex, a Chinese person, but all of the things are true. I am now back in court in the next few days and do not know what to do. I represent myself but find the whole things very stressful and it is causing undue pressure on the family. My ex has never shown any interest in the kids, but I know she is out for revenge as I had the affair and nothing would give her greater pleasure than seeing me fall.
Since the kids came to me I and my partner have moved house so the kids could retain their old school, my partner gave up her job to be a full time mum and I had to leave my job as the commute was unseasonable and I was not able to be a dad to the kids.
I feel like throwing in the towel... can someone please help???