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Hi,
I am having on-going issues where my ex has attempted to alter the court order in relation to collection and drop off of my daughter. I have not consented to this for very very valid reasons that I wont go into now.
My daughter is due to go back to her mum tomorrow, and despite where the court order states I drop off I have been told where I now need to drop off my daughter. Normally this would take place between her mum and me, my mother or father. Now she is saying she is collecting herself and that she is not willing for either me my mum or dad to facilitate this. The only problem is we are the only people who can do so. I have advised that my daughter will be in the normal location in line with the court order and that I do not agree to her changing this.
My only concern is, what if I'm left with my daughter tomorrow because she is too stubborn to turn up to the location stipulated in the court order. She is likely to contact the police as this the sort of person she is. Where would this leave me? bearing in mind all I am doing is keeping to the order.
Thanks in advance.
My personal view on this would be to stick to the court order, contact the local police to explain your concerns and to advise them of your intentions to stick to the agreed collection/drop off point as per court order as you are in fear your ex may contact them to claim you’ve abducted your daughter/refusing to hand her over.
If you get “fobbed off” ask to speak with the duty Sargent or a high ranking person as you really need to have them take this seriously and for them to make a log of this to protect you/your daughters future contact.
Also contact court and explain to them your concerns.
May also be worth giving CORAM a quick call to get advice from a true legal perspective rather than mine/others experiences.
Whatever you do make sure you can prove it in case your ex plays dirty…… Arrange for the police to be there to prevent a breach of the peace? Make it a public place where there are impartial witnesses / CCTV?
Hi there,
I agree 100% with the above stick to the order, send your ex a txt stating you will be sticking to what the court order says and will be in the normal place at the arranged time, If she replies, simply return another text saying if she wishes to make changes to the order that is in place then she needs to do this via a change of order through the court.
All I would add to this is take a copy of the court order with you just in case there are any issues so you can show instantly you are where you should be, you can also show the txt you have sent stating that you are doing this.
If she does call the police you will already have on record that you suspected there to be an issue so it will be on record.
GTTS
Thanks,
Definitely nobody else on my side to facilitate dropping off at the new location she has told me about, so have texted back to say I will be adhering to the court order and fully expect them to do so without further inference with contact. I will phone the police too to make them aware.
I have just this morning posted my c100 to court for variation, so will probably follow that up with a call/email if tomorrow goes wrong.
Hi there,
I would send the email/letter explaining what she has tried to do anyway even if she turns up at the right place, just to make them aware she has tried to conflict what is in the order already.
GTTS
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