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According to the Contact Order I was having an alternate weekend contact with my daughter (6yrs), who lives with her mother. Now her mother has moved to another city which is 3 hours away.
I cannot affordable to travel down every alternate Friday to pickup and drop off on Sunday evening. It’s been more than a month I haven’t seen my daughter, but did manage to be in touch with her over the phone.
Can anyone please advise me what should I be doing
Hi
Sorry a bit slow on this. It's tricky as your ex can move wherever she wants in the country if she has a good reason (ie she can persuade the court, if it goes to court at all, that she's moving for any other reason than to prevent access). You can reduce your maintenance payments because of this though the CSA (I think the calculation is to knock off all reasonable travelling expenses above £15 per week from your income before calculating maintenance). Otherwise you can try to get a contact order stating that your ex should bring your daughter to you - however, I don't know that you'll have any success with this - in my own case where I was restricting contact between my daughter and my ex, Cafcass were of the opinion that such a trip on a regular basis was onerous on my daughter, and that my ex should do all of the travelling (which is what the court then ordered).
Perhaps an option you should consider is to see her once a month, but for a longer period if possible, and see if you can set up skype contact in the meantime at a fixed and regular time each week. I know it's not an ideal solution by any means, but it's a matter of making the best of the situation you are in.