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Hi
Have the final hearing tomorrow regarding contact order for my son. We have submitted and exchanged statements, however although the judge made a clear direction that these should relate solely to the specific contact days being contested, my ex has written a statement 80% of which is criticizing me and making accusations of previous name calling texts, etc. Now I could have submitted a very similar statement countering all her claims and accusing her of exactly the same!. It was my understanding that the judge did not want to get into this sort of [censored]-for-tat arguing in court. My question is that I think she has been out of order in submitting this statement this late in proceedings and I need to know that the judge will not be using what she has said in any judgement, I also believe that she should be censured in some way for this as at this stage she was aware what the statement should and should not have included. If the judge does not make mention of this at the outset of the hearing how should I make him aware of my stand on this?
Cheers
Tel
Its a much tougher question that you realise. If you do not defend and you get an [censored] of a judge then they believe or side with your ex-partners allegations. If you defend then it devoids of the point.
I think a short statement straight to the issues and consider a couple of statements which state you refute her allegations as demonstrated by the previous evidence and as per prev judges recommendations you do not wish to correspond to this level any further and wish to concentrate on your children.
Best of luck and please feed back tomorrow
fingers crossed
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