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Hi all
I hope someone will be able to help as i have taken my ex to court for PR of our 5 month old daughter. I took her to court after she cut contact a couple of weeks after birth , which she resumed on receipt of my court application by way of text message to inform me that " I wasnt 100% her dad so would need a dna " . She finally showed to the directions hearing at the third attempt on 4th oct with an ex boyfriend who once stabbed her in the head with a folk .
Before actually being called into court on her barrister approached me and stated the b*t*h consented to a DNA and that she would cover the costs . I had been expecting to have to cover the costs and organise the DNA samples collection so was pleasantly surprised . After being called into court and the agreement for samples to be collected by 18th Oct . I then waited to be notified of my appointment however with the deadlines fast approaching I have spent two day coming up against various brick walls. i telephoned the Cellmark to request my own sample kit and was told i need a GP appointment and Cellmark reference number . So I phoned her solicitor and she was unavailable . I left the contact the details she already has with her secretary i called the Dr,'s and made an appointment The same thing happened today with her solicitor , I don't want to spend tomorrow going round in circles so if anyone has been through this process recently I would welcome any knowledge you will share regarding The normal procedure for providing my DNA sample ? and as meeting the deadline appears to be unattainable is there anything i should be doing or saying to the courts? her lawyers? the DNA company ?
many premature thanks
.. As she is arranging the test through her solicitor, it is down to them to make the arrangements and to give you notice of dates and times. I would advise you to keep a record of the phone calls to her solicitor with dates and times and what was said....or in this case not said, as you havent been able to make contact and they havent returned your calls. Also do the same with the calls you made to Cellmark and the Doctors.
i would advise you to telephone the courts tomorrow and let them know what is happening and the likelihood of a delay....Ask them how they would like you to proceed. Continue to try and get hold of her solicitor and also inform them that you have been in contact with the court concerning their lack of contact about the DNA test and continue to record everything.
Good luck and let us know how you get on.
Agree with the above comments.
I asked for DNA in my case, but I organised and paid.
The process is they call Cellmark, make payment and give your details. They will then call you and send out a kit to your GP, your GP then calls you to attend with ID, take sample and send back.
Write a letter to the Courts, email it or fax it, detailing the deadline is approaching and you have heard nothing about the DNA sample.
You have called Cellmark and he solicitors etc, also include them in the email and state that you deem this as deliberate delay tactics on their behalf.
The courts will then advise you further.
Good luck
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