[Solved] Urgent advice needed.

Things seem to have gotten a bit messy for you. The incident where you punched your ex - was that the only issue or has your ex raised other concerns? Do you have any other history that is preventing access to your daughter?

Social services seem to be seeing a different side of the story and hopefully for you and your daughter you will get access even if only through a contact centre to begin with. I commend you for being the bigger man here and trying to stay in your daughters life despite a pretty awkward situation. I agree it's probably the best step forward to try and get access by going through mediation and the courts now that social services have backed down? Your daughter is still very young and will need her real dad in her life as she gets older. From what I understand the courts try to involve both parents in a childs life.

Having no contact with your ex will certainly help - if things are so tense over access and there is a history of violence from either side it will stop the chances of further altercations in the future.

The incident was self defence as she tried to bite my thumb off however my ex playe and manipulated me into pleading guilty by using our then unborn daughter stating it would be in my best interest as holding my hands up and not dragging her through a trial while pregnant would make me look better...it is the only history I have bar a driving offence nearly 10 years ago. The concerns are she was pregnant so I was classed as an indirect risk of harm to children because of this. The social worker was initially quite cold to me during our first contact stating the only hope I had was through court. However once I opened up and told her the truth about my ex and all the concerns I have she is now encouraging me to push forward with my probation work so I can get access. She has said as soon as my p.o notifies her she thinks I'll be okay then the sw will have no issue with me having contact. The sw has said herself that there will be no need for court if this happens. So I'm seeing it as a positive in a way.
Of course I want to be part of my daughters life I want nothing more in life. It's all I think about.
There is a restraining order in place so I cannot approach my ex however sw has agreed to help me when I'm allowed access. They are aware I would rather not have anything to do with my ex

Thought I'd keep everyone updated on my progress. My probation office has agreed there is no risk of direct harm to my daughter her only concern is my daughter being present in any possible future incident, however after explaining contact would be supervised without my ex present she has agreed to open talks with the social worker for me to have access, however they keep missing eachother and have been unable to get in contact. One issue raised as a concern was my exs constant out every weekend drinking (yeah I get she needs a bit of me time, but every weekend and the state she was apparently getting in was a bit excessive) this resulted in an incident last weekend after being dumpedal by her partner her drinking spiralled out of control resulting in her being taken home in a police car. Naturally knowing she was at home with the baby in that state I was straight on the phone to the sw to find out what she was playing at. My concern being what happened if my ex picked the baby up In that state and dropped her or something? I was also sent video recordings of her ex on the phone to her, with her being on loudspeaker. She was still clearly drunk at 2pm in the afternoon. Blaming him for putting the baby at risk by calling the police rather than taking responsibility for her own actions. In all fairness he stuck up for me in these conversations stating my daughter would "go to her real dad now who will actually look after her" my ex responded with she doesn't have a real dad, your supposed to be her real dad, you were supposed to be the father figure in her life (pretty brutal to hear her begging another man to be a father to my daughter
As a result, social services intervened on Monday and have placed my daughter on the high risk register due to my exs behaviour. My ex then cried all week to her friends about how she can't have the baby taken off her, she loves her and will do anything for her. She proved that....by less than a week after being put on the register, getting a sitter and going out to get drunk again this weekend just gone. You would think anyone would say to themselves, you know what....I'll have a few weekends off and be a mother...but no. .. Nothing seems to interfere with her Friday night plans!!
So this morning an application for parental responsibility has gone into the court....looks like I will be going for full custody at this rate...however I'm not sure how this will work given my circumstances. I will keep you all posted

Thanks for the update...it's looks like things are going in the right direction. It's good that you have been listened to and your daughters social worker is open to you and willing to take action where it's required.

All the best

Thank you. Although I've learnt this morning that the exs lies continue. Social worker informed me my daughter has not been placed on the at risk register...Can't understand why given her mother's behavior but it appears my lovely ex had made out she has been in an attempt to get sympathy and support off people....pretty messed up if you ask me....once again using my daughter for her own attention

...you'll just have to keep plugging away at it ...all the best

sorry to hear this, a similar thing happened to me although there was no violence I spent £6 in solicitors fees (in 2009) getting contact orders and PR, when I eventually got these it made me feel so happy but only to realise that on the day of contact I would get a phone call to say the child was either ill or simply didn't want to come, the courts have no realistic power to enforce any type of contact order, if the mother decides she doesn't want you to be involved in your Childs life then sadly that will be the case, no matter how many court orders you get.... although solicitors tell you that once you get a contact order you will see your child then can tell you this isnt the case...... even though they tell you its the law you can't do a lot, spending lots of money on solicitors is a total waste of time, its now ten years since I saw my child who is now 18, listening to the powers to be will give you false hope I'm afraid,