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So cafcass came out to see me and he was not that bad to be fair the officer and i had a good chat .but all in all i dont know if im just totally got no chance at all because this the fourth or five application he said the judge has asked him to decide if they need to put an order in place to stop me making any further application if both partys cant reach an agreement to find away to solve this on going court procedings .he came across on myside but he also said if they cannot find a way forward it might be that its in child intrest to end proceddings and put a restriction on any further applications being made .with regards to false allergations he thought it was odd that ex said all these new allergations and i think hes clicked on that its a load of rubbish .he has to decide now also if there is any point in a fact finding hearing. And also he mentioned the family assistance order and i said that i would agree .he hasnt seen ex yet hes going to see her today i think as shes just come back from sweden on trip .but i put my points forward and just said im willing to do everything for child but ex is just putting more [censored] in way ...also i said im worried after child has started acting strange in behaviour if this is the start of the damage from mom restricting contact...but as soon as he goes to see mom i said im made out to be the baddest man on planet and child is terrified .yet there is evidence to suggest that this is mom putting this [censored] in childs head ...i dont know whats going to happen ,touch wood that there something good going to come out of it .but at the moment i feel down and feel like i have not got a chance .even if i didnt walk away or let child decide ,now i may have this taken away from me by them stopping me make any further applications ...be nice if the fact finding came out that shes told lie upon lie but it seems ex has this way of getting away with it ....from what cafcass said fact hearing could go my way and help me in gaining access to child but ive been to court so many times i know the game and am not putting my hopes on that .all i know is ive been upfront never lied and am really trying .what more can i do .i really hope somat changes and for once it goes my way .
I would say you need to push for a Finding of Fact, if the ex's side are saying you shouldn't be allowed to make further application then you should be challenging it along the lines of what i have been doing....My stance has always been along the following...
None of the applications are unwarranted, they are simply a father trying to re-establish contact with his child, you have had to make these applications because of the ex's refusal to allow you and you child time together.
had she allowed you contact with your child then you wouldn't have had to ask for the courts to set in and help you protect your relationship with your child which you now fear is being prevented by your ex by way of parental alienation and coercive behaviour with your child......basically she's doing what she can to poison your child’s view of who you are to them.
i have said this in court so many times....."If contact hadn't been stopped and prevented that we wouldn't be here today and me out of pocket by thousands of ££££'s.....and if (Child)'s mother would comply with court orders we'd also not be here today" "all I’ve done is applied to court in an appropriate and proportionate way”
This is about (child)'s right to have an uncontroled and unrestricted relationship with me....and the mothers thoughts of me shouldn't be forced on to (child)
Worse case scenario, if an order is made to prevent applications, it will be time limited and wouldnt generally stay in place until your child reaches the age of 16...little consolation I know.
However you do need to concentrate your focus on your child, a fact finding could possibly help to determine if the mother is obstructing contact with false allegaions.
Best of luck
I would say you need to push for a Finding of Fact, if the ex's side are saying you shouldn't be allowed to make further application then you should be challenging it along the lines of what i have been doing....My stance has always been along the following...
None of the applications are unwarranted, they are simply a father trying to re-establish contact with his child, you have had to make these applications because of the ex's refusal to allow you and you child time together.
had she allowed you contact with your child then you wouldn't have had to ask for the courts to set in and help you protect your relationship with your child which you now fear is being prevented by your ex by way of parental alienation and coercive behaviour with your child......basically she's doing what she can to poison your child’s view of who you are to them.i have said this in court so many times....."If contact hadn't been stopped and prevented that we wouldn't be here today and me out of pocket by thousands of ££££'s.....and if (Child)'s mother would comply with court orders we'd also not be here today" "all I’ve done is applied to court in an appropriate and proportionate way”
This is about (child)'s right to have an uncontroled and unrestricted relationship with me....and the mothers thoughts of me shouldn't be forced on to (child)
thank you for advice mate
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